LINDA LOVELACE, PATTY HEARST, AUTOBIOGRAPHIES, ABUSIVE MEN, RED FLAGS, SAME GHOST DIFFERENT HOST, EXPOSING ABUSERS!..

(this was a post that i wrote for my fb book club & copied here due to how STRONGLY i feel about ABUSIVE MEN!), i should/could write TONS more about it, but for now........
Hello my lieblings! how is everyone? what is everyone up to? what are you all reading? gonna read? read before? let's hear it!
i myself, oh god, what all have i read? oh i've been in autobiography mode for awhile now, though it's now getting on my nerves. I re-read "every secret thing" by patty hearst (read it as a kid, wanted to re-read it, so i bought it again), about her kidnapping by the SLA. THEN i moved onto reading 2 of linda lovelace's books. "ordeal" about the abusive asshole she was a prisoner of for yrs that FORCED her to make "deep throat" & then her book she wrote yrs after that, umm, can't think of the title right now. it's similar to ordeal. the title & the book. but about her life after. u know what doesn't make sense to me? she was with an UBER abusive man, chuck traynor & then the next man she was w/after him shockingly (sarcasm) turned out to be abusive. gasp! so the guy she's talking about now that she married & had kids with, how could he NOT be abusive? u have a pattern & if you've done nothing to change the pattern (which she hadn't) then why would she suddenly draw a non-abusive man? and abusive men also pray upon these women, they can spot them. the ones who have bee abused before OR those that are so sweet & naive that they wouldn't spot nor be looking for red flags showing a man to be abusive, though those red flags would show up. but if it's the sweet/naive scenario, then the girl/woman will usually brush such signs under the rug (as EVERYONE has done many times w/relationships of all types) & think it was just an aberration. even something as full out & scary as them suddenly hauling off and punching them in the face. they will think it was a one time slip & usually the guy will do all in his power to convince them that it was a one time slip & that they have NEVER done anything like that & never will again. and you are "in love" so you want to believe that right? not me. a one time "aberration" is all it takes. because there's ALWAYS more where that came from. a man isn't just randomly abusive once in his life! just doesn't happen. it's in him. it's his M.O., who he is.
anyway, got sidetracked, but my point was...i would bet money that linda lovelace's husband was abusive! she says in the book (so far) that he has a really "bad temper" but it's not aimed towards her. hmmm. i doubt that.
I HAVE (oops caps) sooooooo much more to say on this topic, so i shall return to it at some point or write another blog about it. such a huge subject, something i'm very passionate about. about STOPPING, about EXPOSING! about stopping women thinking that they deserve such treatment, (because that is flat out what they think if they are staying & putting up w/it, actions speak FAR louder than words), or that they deserve to be disrespected EVER, in ANY way at all in life! or by a man/a relationship! or that they can't "do any better", because one thing that abusers specialize in (oh but they specialize in SO many fucked up things, i should make a list...), is "loving" the woman soooo much, they HAVE to keep them to themselves, so they tell them that they are SO horrible that no other man would ever want them! that they are lucky that THEY indeed want them! bastards!
* I guess i didn't really talk about patty hearst much, but i can. big time. ah, another time. have to run.....:)