ZOVERSTOCKS: ANOTHER WARNING! DO NOT BUY FROM THEM! EVER!!!

THEY ARE ON AMAZON, SELLING UP A STORM, THEY HAVE THEIR OWN SHOP (UNDER ANOTHER NAME, BUT ZOVERSTOCKS IS MENTIONED SOMEWHERE), THEY SELL ALL OVER THE INTERNET, SO WATCH OUT AND DO NOT BUY FROM THEM!! THIS IS A GIVEN..... I WAS GOING TO SAY THEY ARE LIARS (THAT IS IF YOU GET A REPLY AT ALL, THE ONLY REASON I DID, IS BECAUSE AMAZON WAS EMAILING THE SAME TIMES I WAS, AS I NOTIFIED THEM, SO THEY WERE PRETENDING TO HAVE CUSTOMER SERVICE BECAUSE THEY KNEW AMAZON WAS WATCHING THEM), BUT I GUESS IF YOU ARE A GROUP OF CONS & THIEVES, IT'S A GIVEN THAT YOU ARE A LIAR AS WELL, HAHA. SO I'M OVERSTATING THE OBVIOUS.  I UNFORTUNATELY PURCHASED 2 CDS FROM THEM & EVEN THOUGH THEIR SHIPPING STATES: SHIPS IN 1-3 DAYS, IT DOESN'T SHIP FOR MONTHS!!!  IF at all! and IF you do indeed receive your items, from what I read (& experienced), they are wrong, broken, things missing, whatever. mine were BROKEN. & i would bet anything that they SHIPPED THEM BROKEN! probably a "fuck you" for my bothering them about my order & telling amazon repeatedly.
ANYWAY, I FEEL BADLY FOR THE PUBLIC & WANT TO WARN THEM & AS I WAS JUST now FINALLY able to post my feedback on my order (though I wish there hadn't been such a character limit, as I would have gone into more details for the sake warning the public)....I decided to copy & post it here, because nothing irks me more than LIARS, CON ARTISTS & THIEVES!!!! especially when they are so happily & willingly going about ripping people off! i'm saying as opposed to a person or persons whom are starving or suffering greatly & steal a loaf of bread or something, THAT i can understand & have empathy for, but NOT this. and not ALL of those con artists in Nigeria who have ripped people off to the tune of $9 billion dollars (i think that was the amount) in the last year. oh wait, i was wrong:
it is 12.7 BILLION DOLLARS in the LAST YEAR ALONE that nigerian scammers have taken people for. people have lost their retirement, life savings, u name it. what a tragedy & a travesty. :(
anyway, here is my review of the lovely Zoverstocks & my horrible "order" from them on amazon......

RUN! STAY FAR AWAY!! GOOGLE THEM! see the constant cons! THEIR BIZ IS NOT SELLING IT IS RIPPING PEOPLE OFF! i do NOT understand Y amazon allows them to SELL! negative feedback (those r the FEW we KNOW about!) my items FINALLY arrived a MOMENT b 4 cutoff date, only because amazon was aware. the cds were BROKEN! i didn't expect to receive them, just more lies. they say: SHIPS IN 1-3 DAYS a TOTAL LIE!
MAYBE I LISTED THEIR OTHER NAMES & THEIR WEBSITES (LITERALLY WEBSITES, LIKE GAMEWORKS OR SOMETHING. IT'S NOT GAMEWORKS, I'M JUST SAYING, IT'S SOMETHING LIKE THAT), ON MY OTHER POST ABOUT THEM? CAUSE I TOTALLY RESEARCHED THEM & TRIED TO GET ALL THE INFO I COULD, TO WARN PEOPLE & TO TRY TO DO WHATEVER I COULD TO PUT A STOP TO THEM "SELLING", I.E. RIPPING PEOPLE OFF. I SPOKE TO AMAZON A NUMBER OF TIMES & THEY READ THE EMAILS EXCHANGED BETWEEN US AND THEIR FEEDBACK & I GAVE THEM OTHER INFO, & TOLD THEM JUST TO GOOGLE THEM & THEY WOULD GET AN EYEFUL, BUT AMAZON ALLOWS THEM TO CONTINUE TO SELL ON THEIR SITE! I ASKED THEM HOW IN GOOD CONSCIENCE COULD THEY ALLOW SOMEONE/A GROUP OF SOMEONES THAT THEY HAVE TONS OF PROOF ARE CON ARTISTS & SCAMMERS CONTINUE TO RIP OFF THEIR CUSTOMERS ALONE? THEY SAID THEY WOULD STOP THEM FROM SELLING. HAVE THEY? NOPE. gee, i wonder why? could it be...hmmm........maybe MONEY????? oh gee, not that! 

LINDA LOVELACE & MARILYN CHAMBERS BOTH DYING YOUNG! and a bit more on LINDA LOVELACE & now MARILYN CHAMBERS, ABUSIVE MEN, WOMEN NOT "TELLING" WHILE IN RELATIONSHIP....

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LINDA LOVELACE, PATTY HEARST, AUTOBIOGRAPHIES, ABUSIVE MEN, RED FLAGS, SAME GHOST DIFFERENT HOST, EXPOSING ABUSERS!..

(this was a post that i wrote for my fb book club & copied here due to how STRONGLY i feel about ABUSIVE MEN!), i should/could write TONS more about it, but for now........
Hello my lieblings! how is everyone? what is everyone up to? what are you all reading? gonna read? read before? let's hear it!
i myself, oh god, what all have i read? oh i've been in autobiography mode for awhile now, though it's now getting on my nerves. I re-read "every secret thing" by patty hearst (read it as a kid, wanted to re-read it, so i bought it again), about her kidnapping by the SLA. THEN i moved onto reading 2 of linda lovelace's books. "ordeal" about the abusive asshole she was a prisoner of for yrs that FORCED her to make "deep throat" & then her book she wrote yrs after that, umm, can't think of the title right now. it's similar to ordeal. the title & the book. but about her life after. u know what doesn't make sense to me? she was with an UBER abusive man, chuck traynor & then the next man she was w/after him shockingly (sarcasm) turned out to be abusive. gasp! so the guy she's talking about now that she married & had kids with, how could he NOT be abusive? u have a pattern & if you've done nothing to change the pattern (which she hadn't) then why would she suddenly draw a non-abusive man? and abusive men also pray upon these women, they can spot them. the ones who have bee abused before OR those that are so sweet & naive that they wouldn't spot nor be looking for red flags showing a man to be abusive, though those red flags would show up. but if it's the sweet/naive scenario, then the girl/woman will usually brush such signs under the rug (as EVERYONE has done many times w/relationships of all types) & think it was just an aberration. even something as full out & scary as them suddenly hauling off and punching them in the face. they will think it was a one time slip & usually the guy will do all in his power to convince them that it was a one time slip & that they have NEVER done anything like that & never will again. and you are "in love" so you want to believe that right? not me. a one time "aberration" is all it takes. because there's ALWAYS more where that came from. a man isn't just randomly abusive once in his life! just doesn't happen. it's in him. it's his M.O., who he is.
anyway, got sidetracked, but my point was...i would bet money that linda lovelace's husband was abusive! she says in the book (so far) that he has a really "bad temper" but it's not aimed towards her. hmmm. i doubt that.
I HAVE (oops caps) sooooooo much more to say on this topic, so i shall return to it at some point or write another blog about it. such a huge subject, something i'm very passionate about. about STOPPING, about EXPOSING! about stopping women thinking that they deserve such treatment, (because that is flat out what they think if they are staying & putting up w/it, actions speak FAR louder than words), or that they deserve to be disrespected EVER, in ANY way at all in life! or by a man/a relationship! or that they can't "do any better", because one thing that abusers specialize in (oh but they specialize in SO many fucked up things, i should make a list...), is "loving" the woman soooo much, they HAVE to keep them to themselves, so they tell them that they are SO horrible that no other man would ever want them! that they are lucky that THEY indeed want them! bastards!
* I guess i didn't really talk about patty hearst much, but i can. big time. ah, another time. have to run.....:)

DO NOT BUY FROM ZOVERSTOCKS OR their other names: RAKUTEN, PLAY.COM & I WILL FIND OUT THE OTHERS THAT THEY USE, THEY ARE SCAM ARTISTS!!!!!!

Below is just ONE of my emails to them, where I had purchased 2 CD's from them on Amazon.com MONTHS AGO now & after being bullshitted by them nonstop & calling amazon over & over, i started investigating their profile on Amazon & elsewhere & they are BAD BAD PEOPLE! CON ARTISTS!!!! STAY FAR FAR AWAY & NEVER BUY ANYTHING FROM THEM OR ANYTHING THEY ARE ASSOCIATED WITH!! i know they have other names & will find those too. As i was saying below is the last email i sent to them 2 days ago........

(email)

Okay so NOW i have to wait ANOTHER 10 DAYS from the current/last email that i sent you?? when i've already WAITED ALMOST 20 DAYS NOW!??

HOW WAS THIS PACKAGE SENT? THE PONY EXPRESS?? horse & carriage? is someone WALKING here from the UK to hand deliver it to me?? there is NO shipping carrier on this planet that ships this SLOWLY! 

YOU did NOT ship it when i placed the order or even 2 weeks after i placed the order or even YESTERDAY after i contacted you again about the order. as i said your shipment method (that you claim it to be) says 3-5 BUSINESS DAYS> which again, i could have been shipped this order about TEN times or more by now, from people who actually SHIP out their orders!!!! WAIT 10 MORE DAYS??!!!!!!! YOU GUYS ARE TERRIBLE! JUST REFUND MY ORDER & LET ME PURCHASE IT ELSEWHERE, SO I CAN RECEIVE IT IN A TIMELY & REASONABLE MANNER, NOT MONTHS OF WAITING!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS RIDICULOUS!

(okay NOW i am going to post ONE of their responses to me, the only reason that i think they are responding (because i've read many times elsewhere that they do NOT respond), is because I am having Amazon email them at the same time that I do, so they know they are on watch. they do NOT want to lose their sales store on there!!! so they are trying to pretend that they are good, above board business people when they are so NOT! okay here is one of THEIR emails to me (through amazon)...(notice i'm an "unable" to cancel my order with them, for months at a time, because it has been "shipped", hence my last email to them. boy that shipping sure takes months! i have ordered many things from CHINA & received it in DAYS! less than a week, 5 days or less! these people are unbelievable. though i have noticed that w/each proceeding email, they become less and less professional, though they keep trying to sell me the same party line! assholes. 

I am sorry to hear that you wish to cancel your order with us. 

Unfortunately, the order in question has already been sent for dispatch by our warehouse department before we read this email. 
Please bear in mind that we are not able to read an email as soon as it is received. We do our best to answer your correspondence as soon as possible but dealing with thousands of customer enquiries per day means that it could be a day or two before we can attend to an email, especially during busy periods.
When the item arrives, we are more than happy for you to return the item to us for a refund. If you would be kind enough to return it to us in the original packaging (or any suitable packaging, if the you no longer have the original parcel). Please use the following address – 
Customer Services (Amazon 107-6904769-1497822) (ACT),Black & White House,Hulley Road,MACCLESFIELD,SK10 2AFGreat Britain
(Please ensure that the address is exactly as shown here, including any codes) 
Please enclose a print out of this email conversation in the parcel to speed up the process. If this is not possible, then a handwritten note with the order number and a reason for return would be fine.
On receipt, we will issue a full refund of the cost of the item.
Please note that as the return has been started after the item has been shipped - you will be responsible for the return costs.
Many thanks,
RoméoCustomer ServiceszOverstocks

This is me again, damn i'm in their font that i copied the email here for. anyway, nothing pisses me off MORE than LIARS, con artists, people who specialize in ripping others off, scammers, u name it. it makes my blood boil! 

they should NOT be allowed to sell on amazon or ANY public forum at all. i'm going to call amazon again & report all this outside activity i've discovered. hopefully they will BAN them. i guess most have been too lazy to call & report them? though i'm sure the people who've said the same things i'm saying have called. arghh!

i am posting this as a public service & i really hope that people will google these people or at the least read their feedback or look them up at ALL, they have full on websites that look like a legit company that is selling stuff, but it is NOT legit. just more ways for them to rip people off!! their feedback on amazon.....(which most is positive, that's why i proceeded to buy from them. but NOW: i'm sure that's a scam, they posted their own good feedback, had friends, etc. but the bad feedback MORE than makes up for it!) i cannot WAIT to leave them feedback. oh my! 

"TEEN MOM" FARRAH ABRAHAM AND ALL COSMETIC PROCEDURES AND SURGERY & how out of control it is, how much is SPENT on it.....people getting FAMOUS from NOTHING, no talent, no work, nada, zilch

(BTW: i started my title w/the teen mom deal in hopes of my blog getting more hits & maybe actually being read by someone, haha. hell, sure i like to share & express my opinion, but i'm not just typing for my health either, and noooo, i'm not looking to be some "famous" blogger (which is weird to me! there are people that are rich & famous for blogging!!?? wtf? WEIRD!)
okay folks, if anyone reads this stuff....last year alone IN the u.s. there were OVER 15.1 MILLION beauty procedures (i.e. facelifts, any plastic surgery, botox, etc) done, totaling OVER ELEVEN BILLION DOLLARS!!! & of course teens are all up in that stuff too. that always shocks me, teenagers getting boobs (which i get w/the pressure over looks), but botox, fillers & all of that in ur teens & 20's?? WHYYYYYYYY??? and they don't end up looking younger, they just end up looking weirder (in many cases. i was just watching this like 22 yr old girl who's had TONS of surgery getting more botox, more restilan  (sp?), she was pointing out her nasal labial fold "wrinkles", WHAT? our faces are SUPPOSED TO MOVE! and she did NOT have smile lines. her face is a frozen mask & she no longer looks 22, she looks like a well preserved 40 or so. creepy! it is that farrah abraham chick, from MTV's "teen mom"? i had never seen her, heard of her, nothing, just this random face deal but from the first moment i saw her, i could 100% tell that she had had TONS of work done on her face, big, huge, fake teeth, her boobs, maybe more of her body & i wondered why! then they showed what she USED to look like and she was a perfectly attractive looking, even quite stunning young woman! i don't get it! she looked waaaay better before and waaaay younger! apparently she has made some porn too? that she calls "sex tapes" that were "leaked", the whole pretend paris hilton, kim kardashian route, but hers ARE actual porn! there is a camera man, lighting, it's pro film. crazy. crazy how "FAME" has become a grab bag of things that one should NOT be famous for.) & even older. what happened to people being beautiful/attractive AS is?! but more importantly, don't u think that 11 BILLION PLUS could go to soooo many better causes. there are too many to count, but for starters: homeless people, starving people, people who's lives & possessions are GONE due to natural disasters, NEEDY CHILDREN, abused women & children. people w/horrible diseases that don't have insurance OR their insurance won't cover their illness, like a bone marrow transplant which the ins. co. will say is "not a necessary or proven procedure". wtf? anyway, i can find 11 billion places that that $ can go to....what say you?
seriously, can we stop being SO self obsessed? can we as a culture stop being SO obsessed w/youth & beauty? probably not. it will probably get worse, not better. in the near future, we will probably start shipping off old people to a deserted island or killing them off because they aren't "pleasant or attractive" enough to look at".
does it even MATTER anymore what someone has & is underneath the exterior look?? how beautiful (and youthful) they are there? how many great qualities they have & things to offer others? things to be admired and looked up to for? it doesn't seem to matter, as long as the package looks good, it's all golden right?

LES MISERABLES REVIEW (so after the fact, as I saw it in the theater opening night)

I saved it but never posted it, I was on amazon i think & saw some reviews dissing the actors or whatever & so i wrote this addressing them. Had I been writing a "real" movie review, it would be much more concise, in depth, touch on the whole story, at the very least, but unfortunately that's not what I did here. As if anyone is reading any of my posts/blogs anyway right? :P 

And I'm actually going to write a REAL film review for once! Normally I will just give my opinion on a film, maybe touch on the characters, in regards to what I thought, etc. but I never really do a synopsis of a film. I respected Roger Ebert a great deal (we almost always agreed on films & had the same thoughts! since i was a little kid), BUT sometimes it has been off-putting for me to read a review of his prior to seeing a film, as he would expound on the ENTIRE story & obviously that can ruin the film for you to varying degrees. I finally started just looking at how many stars he gave a film & maybe read the first paragraph, then waited to read his entire review until after I saw a film. SO much better that way! 

First, let me start by addressing (or commenting) on the people dissing the actors, their singing abilities, etc.

the singing/the songs, AS written originally for the play, if you think about it, is NOT supposed to be about who can sing the best, how pretty can they make the song.

that is the last consideration really. if you want HONESTY in your films (or even stage) musicals that is, and that is what THIS "les miserables" is about. for starters, they are singing LIVE, take after take after take, WHILE they are acting, and the acting takes precedence, in my opinion anyway. the story, the characters, what they make you FEEL, is a million times more important than "oh i don't know if they sang that song to perfection". gimme a break you naysayers. yes, films are about escapism, and suspending not only your disbelief, but your reality as well, though this film is STEEPED in reality....that reality being the human condition, which we ALL can (or should) be able to relate to.

so instead of having gone into the studio months and months prior to filming, before the actors even ACTED the roles, they have to then decide and TOTALLY commit to how they are going to perform the role and are stuck to it regardless of what happens, because they laid it down in the studio, so the die is cast.

would YOU want to do that as an actor? make all of your acting choices before you even got on the set? before you even became the role? before you even interacted (and acted) w/your fellow actors?

people are too used to the "perfect", prettied up musicals. i myself have always loved musicals, the great ones, that is, but i always did find it cheesy that there was perfect playback that they were lip synching along too and how they are walking down the street and suddenly break into song and everyone else joins in and happens to know the song and the dance routine. c'mon, that IS cheesy, and totally unrealistic. maybe i prefer realism more than most. so while i overlooked that w/my much beloved musicals, i still always struck a false note (no pun) w/me. "Chicago" did a great job (the film), because the director came up with a way for it NOT to be cheesy, he made it imaginations of Roxy Hart and that brought up the level of "Chicago"'s greatness even higher.

Also people have mentioned the quality of the actors singing voices. They ALL (w/the exception of Russell Crowe in my opinion), have AMAZING voices, and as a singer and musician myself, I know what I speak of. Russell's is passable and that's about it in my opinion, but Anne, Hugh, Eddie, Samantha, Amanda all have fantastic, amazing voices, especially Sam, Anne, Eddie and Amanda, they could be professional singers in a hot second if they so desired.

Okay enough about the naysayers and the disappointed. Les Miserables is a BEAUTIFUL, sad, moving, amazing, hopeful, cinematically (ok amazon, i'm spelling it correctly, not sure why the underlining) stunning and beautifully produced film, bottom line, no bones about it. Tom Hooper took on a close to impossible task in his undertaking of this much loved, MUCH seen story.

It is also considered to be THE best musical EVER written!! ever!! Based on Victor Hugo's novel written in 1862, or first published in 1862, i have it on my kindle & am reading it at the moment, along w/a few other novels i have going. 

Well okay, I'm gonna do it anyway, I'm going to give a synopsis while I'm here posting this.....

"Les Miserables", French literature at it's finest, written, as aforementioned, by Victor Hugo (who also wrote "The Hunchback of Notre Dame" (1831), for those of you that are familiar w/at least the film versions of that story as well), it IS considered to be one of the greatest novels of the 19th century!) is a story based on the lives of a few particular people: Jean Valjean, Fantine, Inspector Javert, Cosette, Marius, and Eponine. The lesser characters that still have a fair amount of screen time are: Enjolras, the Thenardiers (Eponine's parents & Cosette's caretakers for most of her early life), & countless additional characters for the time, the setting, the Revolutionaries: the young men wanting to change France & change the lives of the people of France, putting an end to the suffering & starvation that was rampant. The poor & wretched, whom are everywhere in this film & in history of course. As a matter of fact, Les Miserables can be translated into a number of words/meanings. Literally the translation is: "the miserable" or "the miserable ones", but it's also been translated as: "the wretched", "the poor ones", "the wretched poor", "the victims", "the dispossessed", according to how poor the translation from the original french was. 

oh dammit, i don't have time to finish this, so i'm going to post it now & perhaps come back later & finish my "official review" of the film, which i was finally attempting to do.

My review of OLAY TOTAL EFFECTS 7 in 1 Anti-aging moisturizer....

I would agree w/the post below this. As a Esthetician/Makeup Artist/Cosmetologist, it IS nice to be able to use just one product instead of a handful. And being an expert on skin, skin care & products myself & having tried almost everything under the sun, I DO agree that Olay Total Effects is a pretty great moisturizer, and it is just one step, which is fabulous!!
No more first putting on your anti-aging/rejuvenating serum, then your eye cream, then perhaps another treatment cream, THEN finally topping it all off w/your moisturizer, to feel that you are getting all of the effects (no pun) and benefits that you want & require.
So, to get down to brass tax...... you know that w/products in general, they are all basically the same, some have differing or additional ingredients that MAY work a tiny bit better, smell a bit better or more luxurious, have a better, fancier package that makes you feel decadent, or that you are getting a much more effective product, because if it costs a fortune, it's got to be great right? Or even no smell at all, which has been the huge trend for awhile now, as fragrances can mess with sensitive skin, or people find them objectible, but what you are REALLY paying for is the BRAND, the label!! The "status" of the company, who their demographic is, meaning rich or not rich.
Of course there is always the "newest, latest, most cutting edge technology" or some newly discovered ingredient that becomes the MUST have & that every product sooner or later ends up putting into their product, following the leader. Hello grape seed oil, lipids, vitamin C, retinol, retinoids, emu oil (which i've been using for YEARS), all kinds of "free-radical" fighting antioxidant ingredients. There is always a new "discovery" for such things. The latest are things like: rhamnose, glycans (which is thought to be an offshoot of glycolic acid which IS good for your skin, but usually in medical strength, like when you're getting a glycolic peel), well you get the point.
A shampoo is a shampoo, you are simply paying 400% more for a name & that is all. They all have cleansing agents & the usual ingredients.  Point being that a skin cream is a skin cream, some are superior to others in miniscule ways, but no one has any miracles to offer, regardless of what they claim. It is the mere fact of taking CARE of your skin & moisturizing, cleansing, exfoliating, etc. etc., regularly, that alone keeps you ahead of the game.
It's like oiling & caring for a leather bag or pair of shoes, for example, or even keeping your lips moisturized, (I could go on for DAYS about that topic! And how my lips have remained young, moist & perfect always, because of my addiction to KEEPING my lips moisturized w/emollients 24/7, & that's only for starters!), you are preventing it that much more from becoming cracked, dry. That alone will keep your skin younger! Keeping it moisturized.
Olay IS a good product, it does have the 7 needs covered & it DOES do what it claims to do (again, no miracles here, but skin care-taking), but that is all you need right? A product that covers it's claims and keeps your skin soft, supple and moist. Those 3 things are the signs of a "healthy skin": a soft, supple & moist texture. That is what you always want to strive for.
Also, I give it added points for being SO reasonably priced!! You are NOT going to get better results (except maybe in your head) from a Creme de la Mer that retails for $300 and such, or a Chanel that is just about as pricey, or a Guinot (ditto on the price), though i do have to say that some of those pricier creams MAY have a better consistency/texture, smell, as they have more than plentiful the funds to add slightly more expensive ingredients & for much more extensive & expensive advertising & packaging. Again, though, you are simply looking for results, regardless of the product or the price.
So in essence, in a long winded way, I have just expounded on the fact that the Olay Total Effects IS a good moisturizer and it does the job you need it to do, WITH an affordable price! In fact, I will state that ALL of the Olay products are quite great & they have been for years & years.
I remember as a little girl, and growing up, always watching my Grandmother go through her beauty routine & in all of those years, she ALWAYS used Oil of Olay, the basic & only moisturizer that they had at the time. It had a really great smell *kind of like roses & a really great feel as well, & my Grandmother always looked years & years, decades even, younger than her age & I credit a huge amount of that to Olay! I always followed her lead & moisturized with Oil of Olay as a young child, later a teenager, & so on. I firmly believe, or even KNOW that that is why I always have had great, wonderful & amazing skin! Because of the product, but more so, always having taken excellent care of my skin.
So kudos to Olay for doing such a great job & not making you break the bank.

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO CHIVALRY? OR MEN JUST BEING MEN??

what DID happen to chivalry, and isn't it (or wasn't it) IN the NATURE of men to want to cherish, spoil, adore, take care of (not just financially or always financially, lest it be thought i'm saying i'm a gold digger or looking for a man to TOTALLY take care of me. that's not what i'm saying, but you know the sentiment would be nice for a change!) women?? whatever happened to that?
is it only older men who still do that or feel that way? and do all of them even feel that way? is it a dying art? a dying breed? because these days it seems that there has been a role reversal. that men want the WOMEN to be the ones supporting THEM & spoiling them & adoring them AND also, while taking care of all of the financial aspects, to be sure to also still do EVERYTHING that a woman is "supposed to do", meaning clean the house, do the laundry, pay the bills (w/her money of course), cook the meals, have the children, RAISE the children, be the happy homemaker while also being THE breadwinner. sure, maybe sometimes she is the 50/50 partner, but even if she is "only" doing 50 percent of the cash earning, she is still expected to do all of the housewifey things as well, so in essence she is doing 150% of everything, whilst the man is putting in a measly 25% or whatever.
i'm not just talking out of my ass here. i have dated a LOT!! i won't even mention how much i've dated, because it might be an embarrassing number of dates, it's so plentiful. besides that, in leading up to, or in the deciding of dating someone, i have also talked to COUNTLESS men, getting to know them, their views, their opinions. then on top of that, i read a LOT & i also have a lot of mail friends, so i think that my opinion on this matter is QUITE well informed, to say the least. i think i'm a pretty decent authority on men & who they are and what they want. granted, it might be a certain demographic....say early 20's to mid/late 50's, there are some exceptions below & above those ages, but that is the basic age range.
below is an email i composed to a man on facebook who is a "friend" but i JUST "met" him, we know nothing about each other, we have only exchanged a couple of emails & they were very short emails.
he was asking if i do cam to cam. meaning, obviously, do i get on cam to talk to him while he's on cam & in my experience of guys asking those types of things, it generally means ONE thing: they are HOPING they will get lucky. that this cam/cam session will turn into something sexual. in fact, many men ask flat out about things like that, or wanna go there in ANY arena. via email, text, im, you name it. in fact i've had guy FRIENDS, that i knew very well try to take things in that direction & to be honest, i was offended!
i thought they they were my FRIENDS! not some fairweather friend who wanted to get some cheap thrill out of me & that's all! also offensive is the fact that our friendship obviously means SO little to them that they will risk it for trying to go to such a place. if a guy is interested interested in you & wants it to be more: a relationship, a start of a relationship, then that is more understandable. also it's different if YOU are interested in the guy romantically as well. i'm including sexually in that statement i suppose.
just to be clear, i have NOT gone on cam w/ANY guy EVER!!! ever in the history of my life, of the computer age, the history of the world, or the history of anything! i own a cam, but i've never used it. it's in my computer center cupboard. i bought it for work, for internet meetings, but never had the need for it.
i have talked to and "watched" guys on cam. i don't have a problem w/that. i mean TALKING, just talking, as a friend or whatever.
here is the majority my response to that guy's email to me, asking if we could do cam to cam....

"very expensive? really? wow. when you meet & like a woman, don't you take her out to dinner? or at LEAST drinks or something?
you seem to be looking for some cheap sluts w/NO self esteem, just ready to go on cam & give you your cheap thrills for absolutely NOTHING in return. now THAT offends me.
i'm worth more than that, i have more self respect than that & i'm not some fucking "free" whore walking down the street waiting for any guy to ask if i wanna fuck, or if i wanna cam. wtf? u men these days make ZERO effort for women! you are so spoiled, entitled, wanting instant gratification & everything else you want, all for NOTHING! u don't even have to lift a fucking finger.
whatever happened to chivalry? or treating a woman like a lady? or wanting to spoil or take care of a woman, even for a day?
don't worry i'm SURE you will find a TON of women on fb who have NO self esteem & don't value themselves at all, who would LOVE to jump on cam w/you because that's the ONLY way they think they can get "love" or attention from men."

so that was most of my email. i guess i went off on a tangent, but why should that be shocking or taken as more shocking, my going off on a tangent, if you wanna call it that, then a man i don't even KNOW asking me right off the bat if we can go "cam to cam" or however he put it?
i don't know. it all makes me wonder. OF COURSE, men wouldn't be doing this stuff, asking this stuff, etc. were it not being ALLOWED by countless women right? if every woman was like "go fuck yourself" they wouldn't be so easy to ask, so flippantly & so right off the bat. so i'm not just blaming men, i'm blaming women as well.
then conversely i ALSO believe that we ALL should be able to do what we want to, in ANY arena, sexually included & NOT be judged & yeah that's a great concept, but unfortunately it DOESN'T work that way and we ARE judged for our behavior & everything we do in this world.

the L.A. Complex...anyone watch it??? it's cancelled?? dammit! SO wrong! now we don't know what happens to anyone!

well i did by accident but ended up loving it! and i was just wondering what happened to it and when the hell it was coming back, so i googled and apparently it was CANCELLED!!!! WHY??
okay i somehow stumbled upon this show, thought it would be SO cheesy and terrible but it wasn't. it was totally good, entertaining, intriguing, kept you guessing and TOTALLY sucked you in!
so i then ended up dvr'ing every episode though i apparently caught them in reruns, but i think i caught ALL of the episodes, though i thought there had only been one season and that that was all that i watched. maybe it was? i'm not sure.
i had never even HEARD of it, never saw a commercial, except during watching the show.
apparently the CW did a horrific job of promoting it, which is OBVIOUSLY the reason why it was cancelled! but was it cancelled for sure? there are varying posts that are pretty old too, w/different info.
okay networks now THIS is the problem. you don't put the time or money into promoting good shows on TV & you also don't GIVE THEM THE TIME to actually catch on....if you aren't getting the ratings you want, poof! the show(s) are pulled! which is a big, stupid bag of BS in my opinion. they didn't use to do that, they used to give shows TIME to catch on!! and SO many fantastic shows have been pulled due to that, while the crap shows keep-a coming. the utterly forgettable, unwatchable tripe that gets cranked out non friggin stop.
for one simple example, let me site "seinfeld", it didn't get good critiques OR viewers for YEARS, yet the network kept it on, very wise of them. look at what it became!! will always be a huge part of television history.
okay enough of my babbling, but can anyone absolutely confirm for me that the la complex is NOT coming back??
arghh, i hope it is, but i have a feeling it's not and that is total bs and a complete travesty. good job CW programming big wigs, once again you've blown it. meanwhile i'm sure there will be more crappy endless america's next top models on and even MORE crappy, endless tripe-y tyler perry shows and more of it's kind. i know there are tons of people out there who actually enjoy watching tripe, but there are also those of us who have brains and taste who ARE discerning and want DECENT and GOOD shows to continue! at least the premium channels get it right for the most part and AMC is kicking ass for sure. breaking bad and mad men, oh and the walking dead are three of MY favorite shows EVER!! because they are GREAT shows! well written, fantastically acted and directed, high production value, on and on.
i'm not putting the la complex in the company of the above esteemed shows but it was a VERY good show for the CW (which btw i don't watch at ALL, EVER! because of their crappy programming), and it definitely deserved to stick around.
i, like other comments i skimmed on here, also thought it was going to be a regurgitated, BAD melrose place or something in that vein, but it's totally not. it's citizen cane compared to melrose place, beverly hills 90210, etc.

My review of the film: "Most High", I was posting it on imdb, so figured I may as well put it on here too, if anyone even reads any of my stuff. :)

**If you haven't seen this film, there are SPOILERS I have written!!
perhaps i should start w/a synopsis of "most high"?
i'm not sure if that's what people want to read? well, no, the plot is already outlined on IMDb & anywhere
else that you look it up. so back to what i was saying about it being HARROWING: he, (julius, the lead character) REALLY and truly got it down, the "life" of a tweeker!! omg, i can't believe he gained 25 lbs
to start the film, then filmed it over TWO YEARS and LOST 100 lbs!!!
talk about passion and dedication! ps. i don't know if my review contains spoilers or not, but i checked the box just in case. i don't want to get in trouble w/the IMDb gestapo. haha. jk.
wait, i just noticed that on netflix the film release (or making) date said 2006,but on here it says 2004, i guess they are going by when he STARTED making it (w/all of the weight loss etc. being the time factor),
instead of the release date? anyway, marty sader/julius & the writer
and director, was fantastic, as i said he REALLY got the behavior down, along w/the paranoia, drug induced psychosis, the mouth movements (see: grinding), the hallucinations, the whole kit and kaboodle.
sadly, i have known meth users in my life & have witnessed much of what he put on film. that is WHY it IS so harrowing and tragic, sad, wasteful, you name every negative emotion and i'm sure it fits. supposedly speed usage is the biggest epidemic in our country & i don't doubt it, especially in southern and midwestern states, where it seems to be so prevalent, because there is "nothing" else to do for people and once someone is introduced to that drug (& this applies to most, if not all drugs), at the onset of usage, you apparently feel AMAZING! like you're king of the world, on top of the world, invincible, can do ANYTHING and plan to do anything! which of course you never do....
but then the rest of your time on the drug/drugs is spent chasing that initial feeling, which you rarely or never get, which i think speaks to many of the overdoses from drugs:  i'm sure people are thinking "oh if i
do MORE i will surely get that original feeling?" i can't say that i know if that ever occurs, not overdoses, of course those occur constantly,  but what i'm speaking of is the recapturing of that first HIGH, but i do know this: that drug is EVIL! pure evil. the first time you decide to partake in it, you may as well just
throw your life into the trash at that same moment, and kiss it goodbye while you're at it. same goes for heroin, which i think those (meth and heroin), are the top 2, MOST addictive and most dangerous drugs out there. though that bath salt deal in recent times is just crazy insane and i still can't wrap my head around THAT one!! WHO possibly came UP w/that idea? who possibly thought that THAT is a GOOD IDEA?? in ANY way? i also don't understand people wanting to be & feel BEYOND oblivion on any drug. you don't even know what is going on, you can't remember, you go into psychotic episodes, some are crazy & ruined for like or simply DEAD!!! not only WHO started it, but WHO jumped on that bandwagon? wow. just nutty. flat out nutty!! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0418903/
so yes, i'd recommend this film, it's DEFINITELY not the "feel good" film of ANY time, but it's quite sobering, no pun.
i noticed some people questioning/posting about the end, what did it mean? i thought it was pretty apparent. it seemed that he and his girlfriend were at a rehab type facility and possibly about to start getting clean. the dream sequences were his dreams of his "normal" future, of having the "leave it to beaver" type american dream lifestyle. which may be possible for him in the future, though he was pretty tore up in the last half or third of the film, but nothing is impossible!
okay now THIS is definitely a spoiler: when the ambulance carrying the girlfriend to the hospital, RAN INTO THEM, or over them, though they kind of dissipated into molecules or whatever you want to call it.....was symbolic of his daydream/dream being crushed by the reality of what was going on in actuality, and that he/they were possibly getting clean, or starting the road to getting clean: hence the interviews throughout the film showing people discussing THEIR roads to recovery and being clean.
i think it was really sad that he so unfairly lost his job that he had a unique talent for, (due to that Dr boss' a-hole EGO BS!) RIGHT after losing his adopted "father" whom he adored and who adored him, and his girlfriend as well, whom he was already disconnected from. so it set the stage perfectly for him to go down the worm hole, as he did.
something that REALLY pissed me off, was that the girlfriend who INTRODUCED him to drugs & other nefarious things....the scenes where she set him up to rip him off & he discovered that she had stolen the $25 grand from him, and yet he was TOTALLY okay w/it, didn't even mention it. i thought it was sweet of him to love and want her regardless & THAT takes a lot, a good man, no matter how spun out he was, to completely overlook & accept what she did for him, because to him love was love & he loved her unconditionally, so THAT was what was sweet about it, not many, or any people would be so kind. on the other hand he SHOULD have been pissed off at her & that should have been the final sign to him that she was just a USER, in every way, shape and form & was not good for him or ANYONE!
i found the voice overs VERY interesting, quite profound, those more so at the beginning of the film, (because by the end he was basically impossible to understand), how we ALL have our vices (& addictions), which is for damn sure! and he was a drinker at that point. would drink to celebrate, for when he was depressed, for any occasion, because that is what we are TAUGHT in this country *the US*, or many countries, go home after work and unwind, be it alcohol, food, shopping, drugs, love, sex, they all have propensity for addiction, and as i mentioned, i believe that most of us ARE addicted to one thing or another. many don't realize it, or let's say WANT to realize it. we all have and need escapism.
so in essence i think this film was a painful to watch commentary on our NEED for excess, be that whatever you use to excess.
not to ramble on forever, but what i find surprising is that i've not, to my knowledge, seen marty/julius before in anything, and that there is such a huge amount of time between each of his works, whether it be acting, directing or writing. i think he's a very talented guy!
yes, i would recommend watching this film. it's a cautionary tale at the very least. GOOD JOB Marty sader!!
ps. speaking of the length of time between each of his projects, not many, i even wondered (because of the realism of this film), if he HAD been on speed, to TRY for more realism & also to lose the 100 lbs and so on. that would be above and beyond method acting though. i know it sounds ridiculous, but the thought DID occur to me! it's also unfeasible though because HOW would he direct, act, write, etc. while being all spun out on meth? not very likely.
those are my thoughts on this film, having just watched it,(i even have more, as shocking long as this review is, but i will stifle the rest, as i've gone on MORE than long enough & i don't need to bore anyone any further :P).