anyway, what i came on here to say (before it took a 100 yrs to be ALLOWED onto my own acct).....is that.......ebay and paypal are a RIP-OFF!!!! and you know how they basically force you into adding your bank account info so that they can DIRECTLY siphon money out of it? well i NEVER wanted to do that, was NEVER comfortable w/that, but unless you DO do it, you cannot be "verified" which supposedly is supposed to be some great treat and allow you extra special treatment and such, but it soooooooo does not.
i resisted it for a loooooooong time but they were so far up my ass about it and never let it go, that i finally "had" to. doesnt' matter if i put on 50 credit cards or even a cash balance or anything, i have to let them have my bank account info.
so recently paypal AND ebay BOTH w/out my knowledge OR permission just took chunk sums of money straight outta my bank account. i am NOT happy w/that.
okay, yes i DID sell a few things (about 5), recently on ebay and used paypal as my method for receiving money, which i thought would expedite it (as opposed to using another method or waiting for someone to send you a check, then waiting for that to clear), and i have bought tons of things through paypal and on ebay, but boy was i WRONG!!! it doesn't expedite shit, in fact it just delays everything 10 times longer than it should be.
oh man, i really didnt' want to type the entire story here about how i used paypal to print my shipping labels and packing slips (AND i paid them directly the shipping costs) and how i have and have had for years, a PERFECT record w/ebay (and paypal even), 100% positive, AAAA+++++ feedback, transactions and so on for buying AND selling, but they conveniently have a cap on those things. unless you sold something in the past few weeks, it's like you never sold anything at all. also i didnt' want to get into my PAYING paypal and ebay already for their services IN my recent selling (but they LIE about their charges and then take tons more later when the mood apparently strikes), and i didn't want to get into how paypal totally bullshits you about how and when you get YOUR money from them. they want to wait up to a month, sometimes more, to establish that you are a "good seller" or some such bullshit. even when your buyer has already received your item, given you great feedback and then some and they STILL hold YOUR money and have all their stupid reasons for it.
i understand the concept behind it and if someone IS a new seller and so on, they may be some scam artist and screwing people over, but if you have sold and followed every rule (and do the packing slip and shipping thru paypal or ebay which according to them will "speed up" the receipt of your money (when it soooo does not!) and then come to find out, after you already sold something extremely underpriced (but enough to be worth it) AND paid the shipping AND paid the 2 companies for their services in your selling and not only do they hang onto your money forever, but they also then later charge you some extra SECRET HUGE amounts and take it out of your bank acct willy nilly, wtf is that??
so yes, i didn't want to get into any of that, but i touched on some, obviously.
and i won't get into all of the details of what each site SAYS that they charge you for your listing (which i did it the cheapest way possible on every count) and what they SAY they charge you to accept money for you, but it's TOTAL bullshit. somehow they can (and do!) secretly charge you these other huge amounts that were not mentioned ANYWHERE!! let's say they say it costs $2.50 to list and sell something on ebay and you don't add ANY extras (though man they act like you can't sell shit unless you use ALL their add ons to do so, extra pictures, different fonts, blah blah blah. oh your item will NEVER be seen unless you pimp it out. more bullshit. that's capatilism for you, or should i say greed? yes i realize they are a business and they are there to make money but man oh man, they are ROLLING in the money!!! because if what they charged me and keep trying to charge me on top of that is any indication of what they are getting from everyone listing on their site, then everyone working for ebay should be a multi-millionaire!)
oh and another thing, out of all of these things that i'm NOT mentioning here (wink wink. i'm just not getting into all of the details that i could and would, did i have more time and interest in thinking about this some more) is that i always wondered and was (and am still) so irritated by the people selling things that are retail price or even MORE than retail. i always think "wtf?? that is NOT why people come on ebay, to pay the exact cost or more that they can buy it for from a store or even online AND most likely w/free shipping, whereas you see these people trying to charge $15 or even $30 for just the shipping and i'm not even talking a heavy, heavy item, it's ridiculous, that defeats the purpose) but NOW, again, having just dealt w/their rip-off-ness i now see why people ARE charging astronomical amounts for items they are selling AND i also feel REALLY badly for the people who are literally selling things (decent things, worth a lot more) for a penny or even for .99 and a lot of times w/free shipping. so they are making NOTHING. in fact they are PAYING lame ass ebay and probably pay pal as well to just sell the item. so they are spending money, not making it.
and in the past, this was not occurring, on my part i mean, i was charged (when i sold things before) the fees that they TOLD me i was to be charged. not anymore. and i sold some pricey stuff back then. an amazing camera that an ex boyfriend gave me, it was like a $600 camera and i was charged like a dollar or something to sell it. no i didn't sell it for anywhere near $600, but it sure amounted to more than what i sold recently!
so yep, now i have a little compassion for those selling overpriced items, but let's be real here, there are some people that are flat out delusional in how much they are selling things for.
let's say that a skin serum, for example, retails for $65 and their STARTING price for that item is like $80, then on top of that, they then throw in a $15 shipping fee, when you know damn well it will cost them a couple of bucks to ship it.....hell, i have paid for numerous items on ebay and wondered at the shipping costs but of course paid it, cause i was still saving money w/the total, so say i paid $8.00 for shipping, then i receive the item and see plain as day on the package that the shipping cost to them was $1.72. i get it, make money wherever you can and pad your shipping and so on, but now i see it as the GREED, unecessary greed i might add, of ebay and paypal!!! if they actually charged what they SAY that they are charging you, as you are creating the page of the item to be sold, they would STILL be making a killing, making tons of $$, but nooooo. not the way it goes anymore.
i have seen and purchased from other ebay-type sites before and had considered them in my recent selling, but i thought "no, not that many people will see the item, ebay is so huge and the main one (same w/paypal), the most used, the most convenient, the go to place and i want the best bids, the best chances in selling my item". well i'm DEFINITELY rethinking that now!
not that i have anything left that i want to sell, but in the future if i do....
oh and besides, if you do a google search or whatever, your specific item WILL be found, especially if it's rare to any degree.
oooh that reminds me, i purchased a book from ebay? amazon? something, years ago. i was searching for a book i read as a teenager or young adult and i can't recall for the life of me what it was called, so i searched by wording plotlines and so on and FINALLY came upon what seemed to be the book and i got it for a pretty cheap/decent price. sadly, only to receive it and discover it was NOT the book i had read and wanted again. was some kind of cheap looking romance type deal, so i just put it aside, never even bothered to read it or anything, but went back to searching for the actual book that i did want, only to discover that the book i bought is apparently VERY rare, very hard to come by (which i have bought a few things that were like that, took me years to finally get ahold of them and i paid fairly dearly to do so, but was fully worth it) and i discovered that women were practically losing their minds trying to find and purchase this book. i saw people saying they would pay hundreds of dollars for this old paperback, crappy looking book. so i should totally sell that huh? i have no interest in it, though now i'm thinking for the hell of it, i should at least read it first and see what all the hubbub is about.
the same was the case (before, not so much now) w/"atame" (no accent marks on my keyboard) or "tie me up tie me down", the wonderful almodovar film w/antonio banderas when he was just a young-un. i always wanted to own it but it was virtually impossible to find it, well it was impossible for years. it was never put into dvd format and any VHS' left in the world, no one was giving them up. finally i DID find it. it was selling for $80, for an old vhs. crazy huh? but it was that rare, just a couple yrs ago. shortly thereafter i found a copy and paid just under $20 for it.....1. cause i had always wanted to own it, 2. because i think it's a great film and then 3. it seemed like a good investment if that's what was going on price wise to find it, though i didn't really intend to or want to sell it, i wanted to own it, though i'm not thrilled that it's VHS, i did save one VCR, so i can watch it on that, but THEN they (whomever they is. the production co or whomever) put it onto dvd and changed the whole situation about huge prices for a rare movie.
i don't know how i moved onto rambling about that.
so to sum it up, even though i barely touched on what happened w/these companies, EBAY and PAYPAL are RIP-OFFS and liars as well. i cannot stand liars and misrepresentation more than anything, it is my biggest pet peeve in this life.
anyhoo............gotta go folks. if anyone ever reads this stuff anyway.
and IF anyone does, i wish i knew (yeah i see the view counter but is only a number, doesn't tell me much), because i have sooooooo much to talk about, write about, vent about, inform about (on my original area of expertise and why i started this blog) and so on and if i knew anyone was reading and hopefully enjoying anything i wrote, i would write a hell of a lot more. writing is a lonely profession. that's for sure. that's one thing that has slowed down the process of finishing my book. that and HOW to get an agent, a good agent, that will get your work READ!! that kinda freaks me out. how does one go about that?? anyone know? i've asked published friends, some famous writers, but they weren't very forthcoming, so i know no more than before i asked.
Feb 21, 2012
the internet trying to access and control EVERY aspect of your life....NO privacy whatsoever seems to be the policy....
what the hell?? i couldn't even access my OWN blog account!! and as usual, w/EVERYTHING on the internet now, they wanna link up EVERY email account you have, so you have ZERO privacy left. you cant' keep anything to yourself online anymore. i hate that. hate is a strong word, i STRONGLY dislike that. i have an old ass aol account still and i check in occasionally and i went to do so tonight and it's all "new", of course another change/upgrade (so they call it) to make it IMPOSSIBLE for you to navigate anything and also to try to FORCE you into linking up your entire online life w/them. i couldnt' even go to my mail or anything else and their so called "new look" or whatever was absolutely awful.
i realize things shouldn't stay stagnate but c'mon, why continue to try to "fix" things that aren't broken and "fix" them in such a way that you don't even wanna use them anymore! geez louise man.
i realize things shouldn't stay stagnate but c'mon, why continue to try to "fix" things that aren't broken and "fix" them in such a way that you don't even wanna use them anymore! geez louise man.
Jan 8, 2012
was just sharing my blog link on facebook and asking why...AND sprint is crazy issues
blogger is SO damn hard to maneuever!! why is that? i feel like i'm stumbling around in the dark on here, other than knowing how to post. even just GOING to my own page, i have no clue how to get anywhere else.
i was just telling someone how my friend myke started his own page on here and the very FIRST day it was stunning and amazing, he had ads and photos and beautiful stuff everywhere and he was saying something like "bear w/me, i just started, am learning the ropes" and i'm thinking "wtf? it looks like he just designed a website for christian dior or something!"
OH, speaking of that, i'm due for a re-up on my sprint cell contract and today was the deadline for me to do it, to re-up my contract AND (even better) get a cool new $500 phone for FREE, so i thought about it all week, was hemming and hawing, i was all in, totally wanted to do it, then started thinking about it and possibly changing phone companies, etc etc etc. then i was like screw it, i have a great plan, there are no better deals out there, i will definitely be paying more for LESS services and so on....so when i finally got home tonight (still within deadline time), i go to create a sprint account online because customer service TOLD me to do it online so the phone would be absolutely free, instead of ordering it from them or going to a sprint store.
well, speaking of difficult to navigate sites and nightmare situations.....i created my account, selected the phone, yadda yadda, but noooooooooooo!!! sprint just loops me around in circles so many times i lost count. asking for my account number, billing zip code, i provide it all EXCEPT for the stupid ass pin number! i never had a pin number, i never created a pin number, they never even TOLD me i HAVE a pin number, i have a code word that i use to access my account when calling them and that always does the trick and i never have a problem, but NOOOOO, the website HAS to have my non-existent (to me anyway) pin number for me to do ANYTHING on the site. to view my account, to change my account, to upgrade my phone, to view anything at all besides my phone number (that i entered), to take a breath, to save starving children in africa, you get the point. that was quite the run on sentence. i specialize in those, and sidetracking, giving backstories, and so on. i like to hear and know details of everything (of any interest), so i tend to give out ALL the details that i myself would be interested in, meanwhile i'm sure the people i'm giving the details too have their eyes rolling back in their head, or read my emails, listen to my voice mails, etc as a lullaby, a cure for insomnia. ;)
haha, i'm not even joking.
oh wait, i had my enormous run on sentence and still didn't even make my point. the point IS that no matter what i did, they continued to ask for this pin number, even though i answered every secret question. the clock is ticking away, moving closer and closer to taking away my fancy ass new phone and i'm getting frantic, though i'm doing everything they're asking of me.
they give you 3 options basically when you get to the pin part: enter it, say you don't know it, or say you don't pay the bill so you don't have it and no matter which one you enter it STILL asks for your bloody pin number, so wtf IS the point of all of those options? i tried each one 80 times in a row and their magic solution for NOT knowing your pin was to text it to you, yet each time they texted it to you it was an ENTIRELY different number, i would enter it in and they would tell me it was incorrect. i would have them text it to me again and the NEW number would be incorrect. then they would tell me my billing zip code was incorrect, then they would say my account number (straight off the bill, i can read AND i can type numbers correctly AND i know my zip code, shockingly enough) was wrong. WTF?? really? THEN when i type in my secret word, they tell me it's wrong, though later i made the TINIEST bit of progress ever, because they accepted ONE of the numbers they texted to me, just to then SHOW me my secret answer, which was the one i had typed in 30 times. the exact one, but it was "incorrect". again WTF??
oh then when it actually ACCEPTS one of the trillion numbers they text me, it just goes right back to asking for my pin. wasn't that the ENTIRE point of them texting it to me? apparently not. whomever designed their website and that system of accessing your account must be getting a great laugh out of all of this. i have never experienced anything like it online in my LIFE!!! though i did just say that i have blogger navigation issues, but this is a dream compared to sprint.
so yeah back to enter your pin and no matter what i put in it's wrong. then they start telling me i've made too many attempts and they aren't going to allow anymore, even though i would close the page or go back and make a thousand more attempts and they totally allowed me to. again WTF??
soooooo........after about the first hour of this ready to pull out your hair bullshit and tell sprint to go fuck themselves, i wouldn't re-up if they delivered a brand new rolls royce to me in the morning (or a car that i would actually want), actually yeah i would re-up if they did that, but possibly would not for anything short of such a grand gesture, though of course i'll get over it by the time i wake up later on. oh yeah and it's almost 4am and THAT is thanks to sprint as well (or my determination to overcome the un-overcomeable (yeah not a word, but whatever). so yep, i finally called them and of course they are closed, i try chat: closed, email: god only knows when you'll get a response on that, i even tried the automated system on the phone, still nada.
then i even called someone to see if THEY could access their own account, they also did not have a pin number and had no awareness of it and went through the majority of the stuff i did (because i finally told them it's a circle of hell and they would get nowhere, so thanks but give up now).
so, no new phone, no fabulous "deal", sure i could buy the phone on ebay or something but it's even selling for $300 and up on there.
i still have no clue what "my" pin is or how to retrieve it in any way. now my big plan is to call sprint later today and raise hell (so to speak. i will be perfectly civil and lovely) and hopefully "make" them give me that offer even though it officially expired at midnight, but hey, THEY are the ones dying for me to renew my contract which is up and has been up for awhile and THEY are the ones dying to make money and get whatever they can outta anyone. so after what i went through (2 hrs altogether of website hell), and all i have to show for it is a backache from hell, a headache and an interruption of something i put a pause on that i was thoroughly enjoying and pissing off the person that was waiting on me.
so yeah, they'd better JUMP THROUGH HOOPS is all i gotta say at this point. utterly ridiculous!
the person i called even sent them a long email (i didn't bother, i was beyond that) detailing what we were going through and how they kept texting different useless numbers over and over that didn't work and that NOTHING worked. i could have sworn that sprint customer service on the phone (or SOMEWHERE!) was available 24/7. i think it's silly for it not to be, just imagine how much business they lose over NOT being available.
i even basically sent myself a message to request "permission" to access my own account. but i didn't get a text or an email or a phone call, so that will apparently come in a couple/few days.
ai yi yi.
so yeah that's my long, sordid, stressful (for me) tale of my late saturday night sprint game. ha. i know we ALL go through frustrations like this, sometimes daily.
for example: (though i may have blogged about this, not sure, it IS one of my biggest pet peeves though)....customer service in general in life, in stores and such. and incompetence and rudeness. not even just w/employees who are being paid to wait on you, service you, just human beings in general. it's like almost all manners have just gone out the window. people slam into you and don't even apologize, in fact, they'll even yell at YOU when they did something or give you foul looks or whatever. oh yeah, i could go on and on (obviously) about lack of manners, courtesy, customer service and all of that good (or should i say bad?) stuff. man, i go out of my way to be courteous. let's say someone DOES slam into me, which i've had happen many, many times, in the market, wherever, i even had a lady not watching her child let her child run into/over me so hard that he broke my toenail and my foot was bleeding and I apologized to her! i apologize or say excuse me or sorry or any possible kindness or manners that i can show, as a RULE! not as an exception.
and i'm not claiming to be "better" than anyone else or more mannerly (well maybe i AM claiming to be more mannerly, or at least more aware of being mannerly), but c'mon people, what HAS happened to manners, etiquette, "the customer is always right", and all that good stuff?
okay, that is it for me. i am officially going to bed. omg it's already sunday!!! this weekend flew by soooo quickly. blink and it was past.
i was just telling someone how my friend myke started his own page on here and the very FIRST day it was stunning and amazing, he had ads and photos and beautiful stuff everywhere and he was saying something like "bear w/me, i just started, am learning the ropes" and i'm thinking "wtf? it looks like he just designed a website for christian dior or something!"
OH, speaking of that, i'm due for a re-up on my sprint cell contract and today was the deadline for me to do it, to re-up my contract AND (even better) get a cool new $500 phone for FREE, so i thought about it all week, was hemming and hawing, i was all in, totally wanted to do it, then started thinking about it and possibly changing phone companies, etc etc etc. then i was like screw it, i have a great plan, there are no better deals out there, i will definitely be paying more for LESS services and so on....so when i finally got home tonight (still within deadline time), i go to create a sprint account online because customer service TOLD me to do it online so the phone would be absolutely free, instead of ordering it from them or going to a sprint store.
well, speaking of difficult to navigate sites and nightmare situations.....i created my account, selected the phone, yadda yadda, but noooooooooooo!!! sprint just loops me around in circles so many times i lost count. asking for my account number, billing zip code, i provide it all EXCEPT for the stupid ass pin number! i never had a pin number, i never created a pin number, they never even TOLD me i HAVE a pin number, i have a code word that i use to access my account when calling them and that always does the trick and i never have a problem, but NOOOOO, the website HAS to have my non-existent (to me anyway) pin number for me to do ANYTHING on the site. to view my account, to change my account, to upgrade my phone, to view anything at all besides my phone number (that i entered), to take a breath, to save starving children in africa, you get the point. that was quite the run on sentence. i specialize in those, and sidetracking, giving backstories, and so on. i like to hear and know details of everything (of any interest), so i tend to give out ALL the details that i myself would be interested in, meanwhile i'm sure the people i'm giving the details too have their eyes rolling back in their head, or read my emails, listen to my voice mails, etc as a lullaby, a cure for insomnia. ;)
haha, i'm not even joking.
oh wait, i had my enormous run on sentence and still didn't even make my point. the point IS that no matter what i did, they continued to ask for this pin number, even though i answered every secret question. the clock is ticking away, moving closer and closer to taking away my fancy ass new phone and i'm getting frantic, though i'm doing everything they're asking of me.
they give you 3 options basically when you get to the pin part: enter it, say you don't know it, or say you don't pay the bill so you don't have it and no matter which one you enter it STILL asks for your bloody pin number, so wtf IS the point of all of those options? i tried each one 80 times in a row and their magic solution for NOT knowing your pin was to text it to you, yet each time they texted it to you it was an ENTIRELY different number, i would enter it in and they would tell me it was incorrect. i would have them text it to me again and the NEW number would be incorrect. then they would tell me my billing zip code was incorrect, then they would say my account number (straight off the bill, i can read AND i can type numbers correctly AND i know my zip code, shockingly enough) was wrong. WTF?? really? THEN when i type in my secret word, they tell me it's wrong, though later i made the TINIEST bit of progress ever, because they accepted ONE of the numbers they texted to me, just to then SHOW me my secret answer, which was the one i had typed in 30 times. the exact one, but it was "incorrect". again WTF??
oh then when it actually ACCEPTS one of the trillion numbers they text me, it just goes right back to asking for my pin. wasn't that the ENTIRE point of them texting it to me? apparently not. whomever designed their website and that system of accessing your account must be getting a great laugh out of all of this. i have never experienced anything like it online in my LIFE!!! though i did just say that i have blogger navigation issues, but this is a dream compared to sprint.
so yeah back to enter your pin and no matter what i put in it's wrong. then they start telling me i've made too many attempts and they aren't going to allow anymore, even though i would close the page or go back and make a thousand more attempts and they totally allowed me to. again WTF??
soooooo........after about the first hour of this ready to pull out your hair bullshit and tell sprint to go fuck themselves, i wouldn't re-up if they delivered a brand new rolls royce to me in the morning (or a car that i would actually want), actually yeah i would re-up if they did that, but possibly would not for anything short of such a grand gesture, though of course i'll get over it by the time i wake up later on. oh yeah and it's almost 4am and THAT is thanks to sprint as well (or my determination to overcome the un-overcomeable (yeah not a word, but whatever). so yep, i finally called them and of course they are closed, i try chat: closed, email: god only knows when you'll get a response on that, i even tried the automated system on the phone, still nada.
then i even called someone to see if THEY could access their own account, they also did not have a pin number and had no awareness of it and went through the majority of the stuff i did (because i finally told them it's a circle of hell and they would get nowhere, so thanks but give up now).
so, no new phone, no fabulous "deal", sure i could buy the phone on ebay or something but it's even selling for $300 and up on there.
i still have no clue what "my" pin is or how to retrieve it in any way. now my big plan is to call sprint later today and raise hell (so to speak. i will be perfectly civil and lovely) and hopefully "make" them give me that offer even though it officially expired at midnight, but hey, THEY are the ones dying for me to renew my contract which is up and has been up for awhile and THEY are the ones dying to make money and get whatever they can outta anyone. so after what i went through (2 hrs altogether of website hell), and all i have to show for it is a backache from hell, a headache and an interruption of something i put a pause on that i was thoroughly enjoying and pissing off the person that was waiting on me.
so yeah, they'd better JUMP THROUGH HOOPS is all i gotta say at this point. utterly ridiculous!
the person i called even sent them a long email (i didn't bother, i was beyond that) detailing what we were going through and how they kept texting different useless numbers over and over that didn't work and that NOTHING worked. i could have sworn that sprint customer service on the phone (or SOMEWHERE!) was available 24/7. i think it's silly for it not to be, just imagine how much business they lose over NOT being available.
i even basically sent myself a message to request "permission" to access my own account. but i didn't get a text or an email or a phone call, so that will apparently come in a couple/few days.
ai yi yi.
so yeah that's my long, sordid, stressful (for me) tale of my late saturday night sprint game. ha. i know we ALL go through frustrations like this, sometimes daily.
for example: (though i may have blogged about this, not sure, it IS one of my biggest pet peeves though)....customer service in general in life, in stores and such. and incompetence and rudeness. not even just w/employees who are being paid to wait on you, service you, just human beings in general. it's like almost all manners have just gone out the window. people slam into you and don't even apologize, in fact, they'll even yell at YOU when they did something or give you foul looks or whatever. oh yeah, i could go on and on (obviously) about lack of manners, courtesy, customer service and all of that good (or should i say bad?) stuff. man, i go out of my way to be courteous. let's say someone DOES slam into me, which i've had happen many, many times, in the market, wherever, i even had a lady not watching her child let her child run into/over me so hard that he broke my toenail and my foot was bleeding and I apologized to her! i apologize or say excuse me or sorry or any possible kindness or manners that i can show, as a RULE! not as an exception.
and i'm not claiming to be "better" than anyone else or more mannerly (well maybe i AM claiming to be more mannerly, or at least more aware of being mannerly), but c'mon people, what HAS happened to manners, etiquette, "the customer is always right", and all that good stuff?
okay, that is it for me. i am officially going to bed. omg it's already sunday!!! this weekend flew by soooo quickly. blink and it was past.
Nov 8, 2011
ahh shit, i can't sleep....
and i'm REALLY lagging on blogging too! behind on my facebook stuff, have over 4,000 regular unread emails, granted many are makeup things or emails telling me of sales, new products, etc.
what i REALLY should be doing IS working on my BOOK and finishing the damn thing, so i can copyright it, get an agent, etc etc.
has anyone (that might possibly be reading this) used "kickstarter" to raise funds for a project? i am contemplating that, so i could maybe take a tiny bit of time off of my TWO jobs to use towards finishing my book. i KNOW it's good, i KNOW it will sell, i just have to pull it off just right, meaning how i go about the marketing, or getting an agent/publisher, etc.
i've had calls, emails, so on from agents and publishers, i just don't feel ready yet. i want to be done done first. maybe fear of failure? fear of success? i don't know.
what i DO know is that i do have a million things to talk about, opinions and stories on everything under the sun, just my past weekend alone, but it's late and i really should get to bed, so i don't suck at work tomorrow. :)
besides, i don't think anyone even reads my blogs anyway. and thank you to those who do. i DO appreciate it. :)
ps. anyone need advice? makeup/skin/hair advice? relationship advice? i'm an expert on both, believe me!! i kid you not. ;)
what i REALLY should be doing IS working on my BOOK and finishing the damn thing, so i can copyright it, get an agent, etc etc.
has anyone (that might possibly be reading this) used "kickstarter" to raise funds for a project? i am contemplating that, so i could maybe take a tiny bit of time off of my TWO jobs to use towards finishing my book. i KNOW it's good, i KNOW it will sell, i just have to pull it off just right, meaning how i go about the marketing, or getting an agent/publisher, etc.
i've had calls, emails, so on from agents and publishers, i just don't feel ready yet. i want to be done done first. maybe fear of failure? fear of success? i don't know.
what i DO know is that i do have a million things to talk about, opinions and stories on everything under the sun, just my past weekend alone, but it's late and i really should get to bed, so i don't suck at work tomorrow. :)
besides, i don't think anyone even reads my blogs anyway. and thank you to those who do. i DO appreciate it. :)
ps. anyone need advice? makeup/skin/hair advice? relationship advice? i'm an expert on both, believe me!! i kid you not. ;)
Jul 8, 2011
OLAY Total Effects Line and Dark Circle Minimizing Brush, people there is NO such product to fulfill ANY of these claims!!!
I know we all are looking for (or would simply be thrilled with...) a "magic" pill, product, a magic anything, even magic beans (well maybe not those, but hey you never know, most of us WERE (and are) raised on fairy tales, but I hate to break it to you, there is NO such thing!!!
There are products that DO help, or work to some extent or better yet, can DISGUISE such things, but that is it. It is kind of like hair conditioner, it will condition your hair per use but once you wash it again, the effect is gone. Would you condition your hair once or for a consistent short period of time and then stop, figuring the job was done? No, I think not.
There are products that DO help, or work to some extent or better yet, can DISGUISE such things, but that is it. It is kind of like hair conditioner, it will condition your hair per use but once you wash it again, the effect is gone. Would you condition your hair once or for a consistent short period of time and then stop, figuring the job was done? No, I think not.
Jun 18, 2011
Question: WHY are there gay guys who pretend they are straight???? Or go for women??
No, i'm soooooooooo not being homophobic, sexist, bigoted, judgmental, none of that......
Also to be VERY clear, the particulars (and people) that I have in mind are SO not in the category of can't tell their family, can't come out, it will ruin their life or career, none of the common reasons that people don't come out.
I'm referring to people who everyone would be ENTIRELY cool w/them coming out, be supportive, wonderful (and probably not too surprised to be honest).
So why do that? Why hide it or pretend to be otherwise? I'm also not talking about people in their teens, 20's, etc. who are still confused, undecided, fighting the feelings (though fighting the feelings could apply), I'm talking about people OVER 30 who know damn well who they are and what they like and prefer. WHY NOT just come out? OR if they're not wanting to come out, then at the very least, do NOT pursue women (or men) and be very misleading and dishonest w/significant others and even themselves.
Oh and don't even get my started on the bi-sexual deal. In my mind (and maybe it is too judgmental, too ready to label, though i don't think so, i think i'm VERY compassionate, very empathetic and very understanding, but I also believe what i believe and have strong opinions about many things, so i'm just being true to myself as well right?), i was saying in my mind bi-sexual is gay. Simple as that.
I'm not referring to women fooling around w/their girlfriends on drunken nights or even non drunken nights plus people tend to look at that differently right? gay women are "hot" and considered a turn on, blah blah. i'm generalizing, but you get it. okay i'm signing off, too tired to finish this up.
Also to be VERY clear, the particulars (and people) that I have in mind are SO not in the category of can't tell their family, can't come out, it will ruin their life or career, none of the common reasons that people don't come out.
I'm referring to people who everyone would be ENTIRELY cool w/them coming out, be supportive, wonderful (and probably not too surprised to be honest).
So why do that? Why hide it or pretend to be otherwise? I'm also not talking about people in their teens, 20's, etc. who are still confused, undecided, fighting the feelings (though fighting the feelings could apply), I'm talking about people OVER 30 who know damn well who they are and what they like and prefer. WHY NOT just come out? OR if they're not wanting to come out, then at the very least, do NOT pursue women (or men) and be very misleading and dishonest w/significant others and even themselves.
Oh and don't even get my started on the bi-sexual deal. In my mind (and maybe it is too judgmental, too ready to label, though i don't think so, i think i'm VERY compassionate, very empathetic and very understanding, but I also believe what i believe and have strong opinions about many things, so i'm just being true to myself as well right?), i was saying in my mind bi-sexual is gay. Simple as that.
I'm not referring to women fooling around w/their girlfriends on drunken nights or even non drunken nights plus people tend to look at that differently right? gay women are "hot" and considered a turn on, blah blah. i'm generalizing, but you get it. okay i'm signing off, too tired to finish this up.
Jun 16, 2011
High heels.....WHO came up w/these torturous things???? And must EVERYONE wear them???
Okay people I'm WELL aware that men (and many women) LOVE LOVE LOVE high heels on women, yes, i get it. I totally get it. They ARE attractive, make women look "prettier", more alluring, make their/our legs look better, etc etc etc. BUT 1. they are torturous (to wear constantly) and 2. why don't they have an equivalent for men? As a matter of fact, why don't they have an equivalent for pretty much EVERY torturous thing that women wear for men as well??
Remember girdles, hoop skirts, brassieres (as opposed to the "comfy" bras we now where, I'm talking the full on hammock, sling deals that women used to have to wear), panty hose, heels again, body stockings, ummm what are those things called that are escaping my mind right now that women LOVE these days? They are like girdle panties, arghh, I sooo know the name of them but it's escaping me now. SPANX!!! that's it. yes. Okay those are not the most comfortable things in the world either. Also remember the way women used to have to deal w/their periods? By wearing those strap on garter belt, diaper-ish deals?
Yes, I'll grant you that men don't have periods so they needn't suffer through that stuff (and don't get me started on period stuff) but think about it, i mean REALLY think about it. WHAT do men ever have to wear (by choice or not) that even remotely compares to what women "have" to wear? Granted, we generally don't have to wear anything, but you know what i'm saying....
Okay, a suit, I'm sure a suit is not the most comfortable situation, especially the tie and the collar but again women have worn those as well and worn turtlenecks and tight ass collars for other fashions, so we've hit that mark too.
Back to the heels situation. Yes, I have worn heels hundreds, thousands of times in my life and still occasionally wear them and have a closet FULL of heels, but I don't wear them anywhere near what I used to, nor do I want to. If I was posing for pictures or on a talk show or something of that nature, where I just put them on for looks, where I didn't have to wear them around before and after (for long anyway), sure I'm in, but walking around in them all day/all night, (which yes, I've done recently as well), oh HELL NO!!!
The times I have in recent years, I either had to (being in a wedding or on a date or something) OR I wore some really "comfortable" heels which is relative. Let's be honest here, there are also a lot of short men out there and towering over them is not so cute in your opinion or theirs in most cases, and I'm only 5'6" but I have dated TONS of men who claimed to be 5'10" and i did NOT have heels on and yet they were exactly my height or I was even an inch or 2 (at least) taller than them. So either I become taller on dates or guys are not being totally honest about their height. :P
**** Here comes my addition to my original post on this from the other night, when I started it. I wasn't done w/this topic but it's been sitting here for more than a day, so I'll post it and continue later, if need be, but I think I made my point. :P
My main point was that it is kind of "expected" by men AND women for anyone who's stylish at all, to wear heels and they have been getting higher and crazier and PRICIER (beyond belief) and you're supposed to be a slave to fashion, discomfort or not but man, i spent soooo many years being a slave to fashion (my own fashion, not what was dictated to me in any form, sure i've liked things here and there that were in style, but that was purely coincidence, we all are influenced by something, no?) and comfort was the LEAST of my concern or desires. Look good, look good , that's all that mattered, but I"m really not big on suffering through wearing 5-6" heels all day, everyday or even once a week. Oh and the LATEST deal, for awhile now is that bloody beige pump, UBER pump that everyone and their mother is wearing, that has like a 6" heel AND the 2-3" platform at the front as well. So you are sky high up there, but I'll give them this....when you do have a platform in the front it does make for a much more comfortable shoe, you're not so much on your tippy toes, so to speak, (and they are cute but must they ALWAYS be in beige? Really people. Yawn.
So beyond the comfort level here, they are BAD for your feet, AND your body! Believe it or not, they can (and do) not only cause mega feet problems: arch issues, calf muscles that could pin a wrestler (though that is just an aesthetic), but squeezing your feet (even if they are not small in the least, they ARE your size) into pointed configurations and toes hanging over the edge and on and on, they cause your feet to be deformed to some degree and it gets worse over time. Women get hammertoes, bunions (in fact look closely at any celeb pics you might see of their feet in sandals or bare and you see even the YOUNGEST of women already w/hammertoes, bunions, perma blisters, etc. So, again, is BEAUTY/fashion WORTH disfigurement??
I have a few personal experiences w/that myself (not me, but friends, family), 2 examples: my mom AND my mother in law (may she RIP) BOTH had major feet and back problems from wearing heels all of their lives, the problems hit in their 30's and 40's and just got worse. Not to be a broken record, but hammertoes, bunions, the big toes, little toes, any of the toes being "deformed" now, from being pushed into unnatural positions for years and years. They both wore heels for fashion, my Mom because she is a highly successful business woman, has run her own corporation for going on 40 yrs, so wore heels to manage, speak to and lead her people. (haha, she sounds like moses), and my mother in law was only 4'11" inches AND loved fashion too, so she wore heels everyday of her life (that i'm aware of and that she told me, SHE had to have major surgery on her feet. NUMEROUS surgeries and still her feet were never the same, never stopped paining her and being a huge issue. My mom's feet got semi fucked up BUT the heels also messed up her back, she was FORBIDDEN by doctors (back when i was a teenager) to wear heels anymore. The highest they would "allow" her to go was 2-2 1/2 inches and she has followed that and saved herself more pain and grief in that issue.
So yeah, I'm not just bitching and moaning about something I don't want to do or don't like, because neither of those entirely fit my thoughts on the matter, I am just basically pointing out how once again followers (again, we all have been one at some point in our lives I'm sure. Even musicians are followers of all of the music THEY love, and are influenced by it, whether they know it or not, but that's another topic). So yep, people are willingly suffering and causing themselves harm and damage over something that looks good, once again. THAT bothers me, to a degree. It just does.
What is wrong w/comfort? Sure, all of my shoes (except for sport shoes) have some type of heel, just the way it goes I guess. Oh, wait, i have one pair of Skechers that are almost totally flat, made to the curvature of the foot, it feels like you're wearing nothing. Like you only have your feet on. Ahhhh, that is nice.
And yet, as I mentioned, I own TONS of heels, I am sure that I will wear them again, even do wear them now, my sandals alone have like a 3" heel on them, but I'm certainly not wearing stilettos! Maybe in the bedroom. ;)
Oh and I had a boss as well, also petite (honestly I have a million examples for this) who wears stilettos EVERY day of her life, to work, to play, to do anything and is in AGONY almost all day everyday, but to "look good", it's worth it right?
I have no clue if I'm making sense any longer, it's very late and I'm uber tired, was just trying to wrap this up....
a good night/day to all :)
Remember girdles, hoop skirts, brassieres (as opposed to the "comfy" bras we now where, I'm talking the full on hammock, sling deals that women used to have to wear), panty hose, heels again, body stockings, ummm what are those things called that are escaping my mind right now that women LOVE these days? They are like girdle panties, arghh, I sooo know the name of them but it's escaping me now. SPANX!!! that's it. yes. Okay those are not the most comfortable things in the world either. Also remember the way women used to have to deal w/their periods? By wearing those strap on garter belt, diaper-ish deals?
Yes, I'll grant you that men don't have periods so they needn't suffer through that stuff (and don't get me started on period stuff) but think about it, i mean REALLY think about it. WHAT do men ever have to wear (by choice or not) that even remotely compares to what women "have" to wear? Granted, we generally don't have to wear anything, but you know what i'm saying....
Okay, a suit, I'm sure a suit is not the most comfortable situation, especially the tie and the collar but again women have worn those as well and worn turtlenecks and tight ass collars for other fashions, so we've hit that mark too.
Back to the heels situation. Yes, I have worn heels hundreds, thousands of times in my life and still occasionally wear them and have a closet FULL of heels, but I don't wear them anywhere near what I used to, nor do I want to. If I was posing for pictures or on a talk show or something of that nature, where I just put them on for looks, where I didn't have to wear them around before and after (for long anyway), sure I'm in, but walking around in them all day/all night, (which yes, I've done recently as well), oh HELL NO!!!
The times I have in recent years, I either had to (being in a wedding or on a date or something) OR I wore some really "comfortable" heels which is relative. Let's be honest here, there are also a lot of short men out there and towering over them is not so cute in your opinion or theirs in most cases, and I'm only 5'6" but I have dated TONS of men who claimed to be 5'10" and i did NOT have heels on and yet they were exactly my height or I was even an inch or 2 (at least) taller than them. So either I become taller on dates or guys are not being totally honest about their height. :P
**** Here comes my addition to my original post on this from the other night, when I started it. I wasn't done w/this topic but it's been sitting here for more than a day, so I'll post it and continue later, if need be, but I think I made my point. :P
My main point was that it is kind of "expected" by men AND women for anyone who's stylish at all, to wear heels and they have been getting higher and crazier and PRICIER (beyond belief) and you're supposed to be a slave to fashion, discomfort or not but man, i spent soooo many years being a slave to fashion (my own fashion, not what was dictated to me in any form, sure i've liked things here and there that were in style, but that was purely coincidence, we all are influenced by something, no?) and comfort was the LEAST of my concern or desires. Look good, look good , that's all that mattered, but I"m really not big on suffering through wearing 5-6" heels all day, everyday or even once a week. Oh and the LATEST deal, for awhile now is that bloody beige pump, UBER pump that everyone and their mother is wearing, that has like a 6" heel AND the 2-3" platform at the front as well. So you are sky high up there, but I'll give them this....when you do have a platform in the front it does make for a much more comfortable shoe, you're not so much on your tippy toes, so to speak, (and they are cute but must they ALWAYS be in beige? Really people. Yawn.
So beyond the comfort level here, they are BAD for your feet, AND your body! Believe it or not, they can (and do) not only cause mega feet problems: arch issues, calf muscles that could pin a wrestler (though that is just an aesthetic), but squeezing your feet (even if they are not small in the least, they ARE your size) into pointed configurations and toes hanging over the edge and on and on, they cause your feet to be deformed to some degree and it gets worse over time. Women get hammertoes, bunions (in fact look closely at any celeb pics you might see of their feet in sandals or bare and you see even the YOUNGEST of women already w/hammertoes, bunions, perma blisters, etc. So, again, is BEAUTY/fashion WORTH disfigurement??
I have a few personal experiences w/that myself (not me, but friends, family), 2 examples: my mom AND my mother in law (may she RIP) BOTH had major feet and back problems from wearing heels all of their lives, the problems hit in their 30's and 40's and just got worse. Not to be a broken record, but hammertoes, bunions, the big toes, little toes, any of the toes being "deformed" now, from being pushed into unnatural positions for years and years. They both wore heels for fashion, my Mom because she is a highly successful business woman, has run her own corporation for going on 40 yrs, so wore heels to manage, speak to and lead her people. (haha, she sounds like moses), and my mother in law was only 4'11" inches AND loved fashion too, so she wore heels everyday of her life (that i'm aware of and that she told me, SHE had to have major surgery on her feet. NUMEROUS surgeries and still her feet were never the same, never stopped paining her and being a huge issue. My mom's feet got semi fucked up BUT the heels also messed up her back, she was FORBIDDEN by doctors (back when i was a teenager) to wear heels anymore. The highest they would "allow" her to go was 2-2 1/2 inches and she has followed that and saved herself more pain and grief in that issue.
So yeah, I'm not just bitching and moaning about something I don't want to do or don't like, because neither of those entirely fit my thoughts on the matter, I am just basically pointing out how once again followers (again, we all have been one at some point in our lives I'm sure. Even musicians are followers of all of the music THEY love, and are influenced by it, whether they know it or not, but that's another topic). So yep, people are willingly suffering and causing themselves harm and damage over something that looks good, once again. THAT bothers me, to a degree. It just does.
What is wrong w/comfort? Sure, all of my shoes (except for sport shoes) have some type of heel, just the way it goes I guess. Oh, wait, i have one pair of Skechers that are almost totally flat, made to the curvature of the foot, it feels like you're wearing nothing. Like you only have your feet on. Ahhhh, that is nice.
And yet, as I mentioned, I own TONS of heels, I am sure that I will wear them again, even do wear them now, my sandals alone have like a 3" heel on them, but I'm certainly not wearing stilettos! Maybe in the bedroom. ;)
Oh and I had a boss as well, also petite (honestly I have a million examples for this) who wears stilettos EVERY day of her life, to work, to play, to do anything and is in AGONY almost all day everyday, but to "look good", it's worth it right?
I have no clue if I'm making sense any longer, it's very late and I'm uber tired, was just trying to wrap this up....
a good night/day to all :)
Jun 10, 2011
tell me do people ever really look at who THEY are?
or are they too busy looking at (and judging)who everyone else is? i think it's the latter. it also goes along w/the "he doth protest too much". i remember one time i dated a guy, few yrs back and he went on and on (also the braggarts, NEVER a good idea. ever ever ever!) about what a GREAT listener he was, how he was a quiet person and liked to observe people and listen to them talk and see who THEY were, yadda yadda yadda right? oh and how kind and giving he was and so self sacrificing. he also had posted a bunch of this tripe on his "about me" (or whatever it's called) on myspace, which i had read while we were dating but never gave it much thought.
OMG!!!! was it sooooooo the opposite? he was not only the most selfish person ever, but he USED everyone in his life, his friends, family, tried to even use me, that's when i was outta there. and the WORST so called "good listener" ever. he was NOT an observer, he was a dictator. he never asked questions, never listened to anyone, in fact he wanted to be the only speaker. he dared to shush me a few times (the last day i saw him and that's one reason it WAS the last day i saw him) for asking him a couple of questions.
basic shit too. how did he like his job, etc? he was not "private" he was secretive!! and secretive vs private (which most people who claim to be "private" are: secretive NOT private, what do they have to hide? obviously something.) i'm not saying put your business out there for the world to see or be an open book to everyone who ever passes you by but honestly what DO you have to hide?
i myself am a "private" person but i also am very open about who i am, what i think and if anyone asks, pretty much what is up w/me as well. painful past stuff, i need more trust to get into but i'm an open book, most people just don't care to know cause they are too busy guarding their own dirty little secrets. hmm
so after i ditched this loser guy, he emailed me few times, etc. he knew he had fucked up but i don't think was entirely sure how (and trust me, if i told u the story, your mouth would be hanging open wondering how he had the nerve to be like that, it is THAT blatant and "bad"), i went back and reread his myspace bullshit. and that's just what it was: bullshit.
EVERY SINGLE THING (good quality wise) that he listed about himself and it was a looong fucking list, he was the EXACT opposite of that. he had none of those qualities, he had the antonym? (is that the word i want?), well i said it, the opposite of everything he said he was. it made me laugh.
but i wondered then as i do and have many times......DO people really SEE who they are? do they care to see? do they simply paint a picture of themselves to themselves of what they WANT to be or want to see and then run w/that? you know like liars who believe their own lies? is it like that? they've said it so often, they now buy it too? or do they think if they say they are that, they will magically become that person?
or are they really so shallow, narcissistic, full of shit or whatever that they honestly think they ARE like that magical person? yes, i'm aware of people in the dating/mating world putting out their "best" selves at first, trying to paint a good picture to woo someone and then you find out the real deal, which was the case w/this guy. though he was too lazy to even keep up his best self beyond our first date or so and i saw the worst self ASAP!! i'm talking can't even bother to shower or brush his teeth to see me worst self, after we had this BIG day planned and i had put all kinds of time, effort and energy into it and he can't even jump in the fucking shower before i'm there? wtf IS that? i mean c'mon!
yet, what bugs me about it even further is that they are soooooooo quick to judge others, find flaw, when they are FULL of flaws themselves. on that note, i agree w/the bible saying pull the splinter out of your own eye before your pull out your brother's, or whatever it says and the judge not deal. that too. i mean that should be common sense right?
so yeah they think they are some paragon of amazing qualities but will find the tiniest shit in others (which btw, they usually have worse. i mean don't u hate the negative qualities in others that YOU yourself have? i know i do) and i know i judge people too, BUT if people treat me well......i treat them well. if they are not rude or unkind to me, i'm not rude or unkind to them. if they treat me like shit, you can bet your ass i'm gonna have something to say about it. i'm NOBODIES whipping post. i know everyone has moods and bullshit but they should expect to receive it back in kind if they can dish it out.
oooh another bad one is the cold superior deal. you know they are pissed but they won't admit it, just get REALLY cold, superior and bitchy basically and act like they are above you and not going to "sink" to this level of admitting it or even discussing it as a mature adult. wtf is that? isn't that how humans work? communicate? clear it up? admit what is going on instead of trying to act above it and claiming you aren't pissed or irked when you damn well are? then just avoiding it. yeah that solves shit alright. that's why those people are alone forever. oh god, now i'm being a hypocrite. i'm always saying how you don't have to be w/someone to be happy or complete and i mostly believe that, BUT i'm talking about chronically alone when they don't want to be. though i suppose that label could fit me at times too. ah but see, i'm human and i'll admit my flaws and shortcomings. :) (least i try anyway :P)
OMG!!!! was it sooooooo the opposite? he was not only the most selfish person ever, but he USED everyone in his life, his friends, family, tried to even use me, that's when i was outta there. and the WORST so called "good listener" ever. he was NOT an observer, he was a dictator. he never asked questions, never listened to anyone, in fact he wanted to be the only speaker. he dared to shush me a few times (the last day i saw him and that's one reason it WAS the last day i saw him) for asking him a couple of questions.
basic shit too. how did he like his job, etc? he was not "private" he was secretive!! and secretive vs private (which most people who claim to be "private" are: secretive NOT private, what do they have to hide? obviously something.) i'm not saying put your business out there for the world to see or be an open book to everyone who ever passes you by but honestly what DO you have to hide?
i myself am a "private" person but i also am very open about who i am, what i think and if anyone asks, pretty much what is up w/me as well. painful past stuff, i need more trust to get into but i'm an open book, most people just don't care to know cause they are too busy guarding their own dirty little secrets. hmm
so after i ditched this loser guy, he emailed me few times, etc. he knew he had fucked up but i don't think was entirely sure how (and trust me, if i told u the story, your mouth would be hanging open wondering how he had the nerve to be like that, it is THAT blatant and "bad"), i went back and reread his myspace bullshit. and that's just what it was: bullshit.
EVERY SINGLE THING (good quality wise) that he listed about himself and it was a looong fucking list, he was the EXACT opposite of that. he had none of those qualities, he had the antonym? (is that the word i want?), well i said it, the opposite of everything he said he was. it made me laugh.
but i wondered then as i do and have many times......DO people really SEE who they are? do they care to see? do they simply paint a picture of themselves to themselves of what they WANT to be or want to see and then run w/that? you know like liars who believe their own lies? is it like that? they've said it so often, they now buy it too? or do they think if they say they are that, they will magically become that person?
or are they really so shallow, narcissistic, full of shit or whatever that they honestly think they ARE like that magical person? yes, i'm aware of people in the dating/mating world putting out their "best" selves at first, trying to paint a good picture to woo someone and then you find out the real deal, which was the case w/this guy. though he was too lazy to even keep up his best self beyond our first date or so and i saw the worst self ASAP!! i'm talking can't even bother to shower or brush his teeth to see me worst self, after we had this BIG day planned and i had put all kinds of time, effort and energy into it and he can't even jump in the fucking shower before i'm there? wtf IS that? i mean c'mon!
yet, what bugs me about it even further is that they are soooooooo quick to judge others, find flaw, when they are FULL of flaws themselves. on that note, i agree w/the bible saying pull the splinter out of your own eye before your pull out your brother's, or whatever it says and the judge not deal. that too. i mean that should be common sense right?
so yeah they think they are some paragon of amazing qualities but will find the tiniest shit in others (which btw, they usually have worse. i mean don't u hate the negative qualities in others that YOU yourself have? i know i do) and i know i judge people too, BUT if people treat me well......i treat them well. if they are not rude or unkind to me, i'm not rude or unkind to them. if they treat me like shit, you can bet your ass i'm gonna have something to say about it. i'm NOBODIES whipping post. i know everyone has moods and bullshit but they should expect to receive it back in kind if they can dish it out.
oooh another bad one is the cold superior deal. you know they are pissed but they won't admit it, just get REALLY cold, superior and bitchy basically and act like they are above you and not going to "sink" to this level of admitting it or even discussing it as a mature adult. wtf is that? isn't that how humans work? communicate? clear it up? admit what is going on instead of trying to act above it and claiming you aren't pissed or irked when you damn well are? then just avoiding it. yeah that solves shit alright. that's why those people are alone forever. oh god, now i'm being a hypocrite. i'm always saying how you don't have to be w/someone to be happy or complete and i mostly believe that, BUT i'm talking about chronically alone when they don't want to be. though i suppose that label could fit me at times too. ah but see, i'm human and i'll admit my flaws and shortcomings. :) (least i try anyway :P)
Jun 6, 2011
My thoughts on the remake of "The girl with the dragon tattoo".....
i saw the trailer for the American remake last night of "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo", I have known for some time that it was being remade, even while still in pre-production, i kept saying WHY remake it, the original is fantastically good, BUT i also completely understand why they have remade it. think about it. how many americans (or non-americans) actually even SEE foreign films? very few and i think i know the very few people that DO. (some of my fav films are foreign. i go out of my way to see any foreign film that looks interesting.) so even if they have heard of the books, or even read them, it's doubtful that they have seen the film. so there is a WHOLE new audience for it and i was thinking the same, why copy it to a T, as i watched the trailer, i thought "wow, everything looks exactly the same, the locations, the characters (mostly), the story line". i am doubtful that it can be as good as the original though, then i saw who the director and cast were (while in production and thought it may work out well, or well enough) and i will probably check it out anyway, and i was REALLY in disbelief that ANYONE could play lisbeth w/the perfection, panache and mystery that noomi rapace plays her with. as roger ebert stated (i'm paraphrasing), she is THE most interesting/intriguing character he has EVER seen in a film. that is glowing praise and i think she deserves it. i tend to agree, i don't know that i would say the most interesting character EVER, but she's up there.
so we shall see......
(but it always goes back to the almighty dollar right? that is the bottom line w/EVERY film that is EVER made. money. even the ones w/artistic integrity, statements, etc. usually turn out to be about money at some point, even later on. so yep, any story that has the possibility to make money, it's gonna get churned out, as evidenced by most of the tripe that is out there, yet people still line up for it, right?) some of the worst films ever make the most money and some of the best make the least. similar to the music industry.
also look at when "psycho" was remade. it was a LITERAL remake, again i understood it was for money (which i actually paid to see it in the theater, that was a mistake, gus van sant (was him right? he's hit and miss w/me) i'm a huge hitchcock fan and that is why i did) and for an audience who had never seen it. again, along w/foreign films, many people highly dislike "old" movies. so yeah i thought that was a stupid choice and a stupid movie. why watch a 1-1/2 star literal remake when you can watch a 4 star original?
so we shall see......
(but it always goes back to the almighty dollar right? that is the bottom line w/EVERY film that is EVER made. money. even the ones w/artistic integrity, statements, etc. usually turn out to be about money at some point, even later on. so yep, any story that has the possibility to make money, it's gonna get churned out, as evidenced by most of the tripe that is out there, yet people still line up for it, right?) some of the worst films ever make the most money and some of the best make the least. similar to the music industry.
also look at when "psycho" was remade. it was a LITERAL remake, again i understood it was for money (which i actually paid to see it in the theater, that was a mistake, gus van sant (was him right? he's hit and miss w/me) i'm a huge hitchcock fan and that is why i did) and for an audience who had never seen it. again, along w/foreign films, many people highly dislike "old" movies. so yeah i thought that was a stupid choice and a stupid movie. why watch a 1-1/2 star literal remake when you can watch a 4 star original?
Jun 2, 2011
back to the weird masked man.....
i got sidetracked and caught up in some other topics the other night, as i tend to do and went on a tirade about that and completely forgot about poor, weird masked man guy.
weird masked guy... .
okay when he first got there, i assumed it was a gimmick (read my other blog re these shows, it's just fodder, something funny to talk about for the most part), that he wanted to stand out.
then he never took off the mask. still hasn't, though he ALMOST did the other night. (i was wondering if THAT was a set up by the producers, the whole almost part. aw shucks, RIGHT as he was removing it, he was interrupted! anything for ratings right?) trust me, i am the biggest believer in individuality, i really am, i hate that shit about everyone wanting to look like everyone else or following styles, trends, gotta keep up w/the joneses. everyone wanting the same hair, the same clothes, the same whatever. i prefer something that only I have! one of a kind or very few of a kind.
it's just sheep stuff, as far as i'm concerned. sure, i guess we all are subconsciously influenced by things but i'm speaking about the people who CONSCIOUSLY try to stay on trend. it's beyond trends but i can't think of the words i need right now. example; the oscars, awards shows, how people TEAR people apart for not wearing something THEY think is wonderful, fabulous, perfect, whatever. how there is some level of expectation. people used to wear JEANS to those things, now it's a fucking fashion show.
i'm not dogging people who watch that stuff to see what people are wearing, i DO like clothes, fashion, my own idea of it. what i like, what i think is pretty, cool, interesting, not what i'm TOLD to like or what everyone else is wearing or what a magazine says. i used to be quite the fashion plate. i mean i'm not a slob now, but man the effort i used to put in as a teenager, from then on too but to a much lesser degree, but even then it was MY idea of what i thought looked good.
i prefer individuality. yes, i understand and agree w/the concept of people looking their best, but it's THEIR best, not YOUR best, meaning what is their concept of their best. like bjork for example. the famous swan dress. i think that is cool! sure the dress is ugly as shit, i wouldn't wear it but i appreciated the fact that she was expressing herself and not towing the line and following what some stylist told her to wear.
also take a good look at a million runway shows, have you seen some of the shit on there that passes for fashion? same thing w/art. there are some horror shows going on there, but it's about expression so i appreciate that. but someone paying 50 grand for one squiggle of paint on a canvas is INSANE to me. yes, it is perspective but it's also put on in most cases. it's pretentious, phony, etc. okay IF the artist TRULY intended that one squiggle to express something and it meant something to him/her, then i respect it, that doesn't mean i think it's talent or great, but then i can assure you that tons of people don't find things i think esthetically pleasing to be so for themselves.
sorry, the MASKED MAN!!!! i digress, digress, digress. so i thought he was trying to stand out and was then going to remove his mask once inside the house, talking to the woman alone, something along those lines.
i did find it a bit odd, but he succeeded in making himself stand out, so it worked right?
THEN he announced that no, he was not going to be taking it off until he felt the timing was right, or some such thing. i thought okay, fine. though the guys in the house were already making fun of him and making a joke out of him, picking on him. i felt kind of badly for him, but if it IS/WAS a gimmick, then he kind of made his own bed right? that's the way this world works unfortunately.
THEN he told the girl about how it was about internal beauty, personality, NOT his looks and how he was making a stand for that and i silently applauded his bravado for that, because i agree. i don't think that will happen in a million years (though the girl has kept him through 3 eliminations so far, so either it IS working and she does understand as well OR, as i mentioned, the producers encouraged her to keep him for good TV). .
i 100% agree that the MOST important thing IS internal beauty, personality, etc. i have discussed how a level of attraction needs to be there too before, so i won't bore you by going into that again.
but then it crossed the line into weirdness. he has kept it on for god knows how long (still his prerogative of course), but he really started to make himself look like a weirdo, and not in a good way. okay maybe this is judgment as well on my part? well of course it is, but that's how we are all set up, we observe things and form opinions based on whatever, or whomever we are, just how it goes. i try not to be a judgmental person but i don't know that anyone can remove that entirely from their makeup as a human being? sure if they never looked at anyone, interacted w/anyone, read/saw any media whatsoever. never left their house, never went on the internet. lived in a cave. something.
so back to my opinion on the matter, he took it beyond the level of understandable for me, though i was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that until he was ALONE w/the woman once again, he could then remove it, he was just waiting and biding his time. i was gonna suspend my disbelief until that time, but the days dragged on. again, i have no idea how long, it could be 4-5 days, it could be 2 weeks. and he never removes it (obviously), to sleep, to shower (?), (they did show him caught on the toilet w/it on), he SWIMS in it, never removes it whatsoever, even in front of the other guys, and they are not the one's he is dating. meanwhile they are tormenting him about it. some of it is funny, some is just mean.
then, it gets worse. he is ALWAYS lurking around the house alone (i realize he's a pariah w/the guys, so he kind of has to i suppose) but it looks weird! but the part that really gets me is that his eyes are always big and staring, like a serial killer look/expression in them. well maybe not that crazy looking, but it IS disturbing!!! you know how some people have a look in their eyes that is just creepy? well he HAS that!! he just does, there is no mistaking it. i don't think he's a bad guy or anything (they do extensive background checks for any reality show, big time), i just think he's maybe a bit off?
so yeah, the creepy look in the eye's, the doing EVERYTHING for countless days and nights through a big ass mask and the lurking around the house like he's the phantom of the opera, well it's just too much and YET the girl kept him there. even though he had some "alone" time w/her, told her he had brain trauma, some accident, illness, i can't recall exactly what it was but instead of looking all touched and empathetic as she does w/the other guys when they tell her anything personal or painful, she just looked uncomfortable and her body language said it all as well, she kept her arms in front of herself and sat quite a bit apart from him, which she NEVER does w/the other guys. so i was SURE that she wasn't going to keep him there and yet she did. go figure. once again that semi cements the producer involvement as far as i'm concerned.
weird masked guy... .
okay when he first got there, i assumed it was a gimmick (read my other blog re these shows, it's just fodder, something funny to talk about for the most part), that he wanted to stand out.
then he never took off the mask. still hasn't, though he ALMOST did the other night. (i was wondering if THAT was a set up by the producers, the whole almost part. aw shucks, RIGHT as he was removing it, he was interrupted! anything for ratings right?) trust me, i am the biggest believer in individuality, i really am, i hate that shit about everyone wanting to look like everyone else or following styles, trends, gotta keep up w/the joneses. everyone wanting the same hair, the same clothes, the same whatever. i prefer something that only I have! one of a kind or very few of a kind.
it's just sheep stuff, as far as i'm concerned. sure, i guess we all are subconsciously influenced by things but i'm speaking about the people who CONSCIOUSLY try to stay on trend. it's beyond trends but i can't think of the words i need right now. example; the oscars, awards shows, how people TEAR people apart for not wearing something THEY think is wonderful, fabulous, perfect, whatever. how there is some level of expectation. people used to wear JEANS to those things, now it's a fucking fashion show.
i'm not dogging people who watch that stuff to see what people are wearing, i DO like clothes, fashion, my own idea of it. what i like, what i think is pretty, cool, interesting, not what i'm TOLD to like or what everyone else is wearing or what a magazine says. i used to be quite the fashion plate. i mean i'm not a slob now, but man the effort i used to put in as a teenager, from then on too but to a much lesser degree, but even then it was MY idea of what i thought looked good.
i prefer individuality. yes, i understand and agree w/the concept of people looking their best, but it's THEIR best, not YOUR best, meaning what is their concept of their best. like bjork for example. the famous swan dress. i think that is cool! sure the dress is ugly as shit, i wouldn't wear it but i appreciated the fact that she was expressing herself and not towing the line and following what some stylist told her to wear.
also take a good look at a million runway shows, have you seen some of the shit on there that passes for fashion? same thing w/art. there are some horror shows going on there, but it's about expression so i appreciate that. but someone paying 50 grand for one squiggle of paint on a canvas is INSANE to me. yes, it is perspective but it's also put on in most cases. it's pretentious, phony, etc. okay IF the artist TRULY intended that one squiggle to express something and it meant something to him/her, then i respect it, that doesn't mean i think it's talent or great, but then i can assure you that tons of people don't find things i think esthetically pleasing to be so for themselves.
sorry, the MASKED MAN!!!! i digress, digress, digress. so i thought he was trying to stand out and was then going to remove his mask once inside the house, talking to the woman alone, something along those lines.
i did find it a bit odd, but he succeeded in making himself stand out, so it worked right?
THEN he announced that no, he was not going to be taking it off until he felt the timing was right, or some such thing. i thought okay, fine. though the guys in the house were already making fun of him and making a joke out of him, picking on him. i felt kind of badly for him, but if it IS/WAS a gimmick, then he kind of made his own bed right? that's the way this world works unfortunately.
THEN he told the girl about how it was about internal beauty, personality, NOT his looks and how he was making a stand for that and i silently applauded his bravado for that, because i agree. i don't think that will happen in a million years (though the girl has kept him through 3 eliminations so far, so either it IS working and she does understand as well OR, as i mentioned, the producers encouraged her to keep him for good TV). .
i 100% agree that the MOST important thing IS internal beauty, personality, etc. i have discussed how a level of attraction needs to be there too before, so i won't bore you by going into that again.
but then it crossed the line into weirdness. he has kept it on for god knows how long (still his prerogative of course), but he really started to make himself look like a weirdo, and not in a good way. okay maybe this is judgment as well on my part? well of course it is, but that's how we are all set up, we observe things and form opinions based on whatever, or whomever we are, just how it goes. i try not to be a judgmental person but i don't know that anyone can remove that entirely from their makeup as a human being? sure if they never looked at anyone, interacted w/anyone, read/saw any media whatsoever. never left their house, never went on the internet. lived in a cave. something.
so back to my opinion on the matter, he took it beyond the level of understandable for me, though i was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that until he was ALONE w/the woman once again, he could then remove it, he was just waiting and biding his time. i was gonna suspend my disbelief until that time, but the days dragged on. again, i have no idea how long, it could be 4-5 days, it could be 2 weeks. and he never removes it (obviously), to sleep, to shower (?), (they did show him caught on the toilet w/it on), he SWIMS in it, never removes it whatsoever, even in front of the other guys, and they are not the one's he is dating. meanwhile they are tormenting him about it. some of it is funny, some is just mean.
then, it gets worse. he is ALWAYS lurking around the house alone (i realize he's a pariah w/the guys, so he kind of has to i suppose) but it looks weird! but the part that really gets me is that his eyes are always big and staring, like a serial killer look/expression in them. well maybe not that crazy looking, but it IS disturbing!!! you know how some people have a look in their eyes that is just creepy? well he HAS that!! he just does, there is no mistaking it. i don't think he's a bad guy or anything (they do extensive background checks for any reality show, big time), i just think he's maybe a bit off?
so yeah, the creepy look in the eye's, the doing EVERYTHING for countless days and nights through a big ass mask and the lurking around the house like he's the phantom of the opera, well it's just too much and YET the girl kept him there. even though he had some "alone" time w/her, told her he had brain trauma, some accident, illness, i can't recall exactly what it was but instead of looking all touched and empathetic as she does w/the other guys when they tell her anything personal or painful, she just looked uncomfortable and her body language said it all as well, she kept her arms in front of herself and sat quite a bit apart from him, which she NEVER does w/the other guys. so i was SURE that she wasn't going to keep him there and yet she did. go figure. once again that semi cements the producer involvement as far as i'm concerned.
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