No, i'm soooooooooo not being homophobic, sexist, bigoted, judgmental, none of that......
Also to be VERY clear, the particulars (and people) that I have in mind are SO not in the category of can't tell their family, can't come out, it will ruin their life or career, none of the common reasons that people don't come out.
I'm referring to people who everyone would be ENTIRELY cool w/them coming out, be supportive, wonderful (and probably not too surprised to be honest).
So why do that? Why hide it or pretend to be otherwise? I'm also not talking about people in their teens, 20's, etc. who are still confused, undecided, fighting the feelings (though fighting the feelings could apply), I'm talking about people OVER 30 who know damn well who they are and what they like and prefer. WHY NOT just come out? OR if they're not wanting to come out, then at the very least, do NOT pursue women (or men) and be very misleading and dishonest w/significant others and even themselves.
Oh and don't even get my started on the bi-sexual deal. In my mind (and maybe it is too judgmental, too ready to label, though i don't think so, i think i'm VERY compassionate, very empathetic and very understanding, but I also believe what i believe and have strong opinions about many things, so i'm just being true to myself as well right?), i was saying in my mind bi-sexual is gay. Simple as that.
I'm not referring to women fooling around w/their girlfriends on drunken nights or even non drunken nights plus people tend to look at that differently right? gay women are "hot" and considered a turn on, blah blah. i'm generalizing, but you get it. okay i'm signing off, too tired to finish this up.
Jun 18, 2011
Jun 16, 2011
High heels.....WHO came up w/these torturous things???? And must EVERYONE wear them???
Okay people I'm WELL aware that men (and many women) LOVE LOVE LOVE high heels on women, yes, i get it. I totally get it. They ARE attractive, make women look "prettier", more alluring, make their/our legs look better, etc etc etc. BUT 1. they are torturous (to wear constantly) and 2. why don't they have an equivalent for men? As a matter of fact, why don't they have an equivalent for pretty much EVERY torturous thing that women wear for men as well??
Remember girdles, hoop skirts, brassieres (as opposed to the "comfy" bras we now where, I'm talking the full on hammock, sling deals that women used to have to wear), panty hose, heels again, body stockings, ummm what are those things called that are escaping my mind right now that women LOVE these days? They are like girdle panties, arghh, I sooo know the name of them but it's escaping me now. SPANX!!! that's it. yes. Okay those are not the most comfortable things in the world either. Also remember the way women used to have to deal w/their periods? By wearing those strap on garter belt, diaper-ish deals?
Yes, I'll grant you that men don't have periods so they needn't suffer through that stuff (and don't get me started on period stuff) but think about it, i mean REALLY think about it. WHAT do men ever have to wear (by choice or not) that even remotely compares to what women "have" to wear? Granted, we generally don't have to wear anything, but you know what i'm saying....
Okay, a suit, I'm sure a suit is not the most comfortable situation, especially the tie and the collar but again women have worn those as well and worn turtlenecks and tight ass collars for other fashions, so we've hit that mark too.
Back to the heels situation. Yes, I have worn heels hundreds, thousands of times in my life and still occasionally wear them and have a closet FULL of heels, but I don't wear them anywhere near what I used to, nor do I want to. If I was posing for pictures or on a talk show or something of that nature, where I just put them on for looks, where I didn't have to wear them around before and after (for long anyway), sure I'm in, but walking around in them all day/all night, (which yes, I've done recently as well), oh HELL NO!!!
The times I have in recent years, I either had to (being in a wedding or on a date or something) OR I wore some really "comfortable" heels which is relative. Let's be honest here, there are also a lot of short men out there and towering over them is not so cute in your opinion or theirs in most cases, and I'm only 5'6" but I have dated TONS of men who claimed to be 5'10" and i did NOT have heels on and yet they were exactly my height or I was even an inch or 2 (at least) taller than them. So either I become taller on dates or guys are not being totally honest about their height. :P
**** Here comes my addition to my original post on this from the other night, when I started it. I wasn't done w/this topic but it's been sitting here for more than a day, so I'll post it and continue later, if need be, but I think I made my point. :P
My main point was that it is kind of "expected" by men AND women for anyone who's stylish at all, to wear heels and they have been getting higher and crazier and PRICIER (beyond belief) and you're supposed to be a slave to fashion, discomfort or not but man, i spent soooo many years being a slave to fashion (my own fashion, not what was dictated to me in any form, sure i've liked things here and there that were in style, but that was purely coincidence, we all are influenced by something, no?) and comfort was the LEAST of my concern or desires. Look good, look good , that's all that mattered, but I"m really not big on suffering through wearing 5-6" heels all day, everyday or even once a week. Oh and the LATEST deal, for awhile now is that bloody beige pump, UBER pump that everyone and their mother is wearing, that has like a 6" heel AND the 2-3" platform at the front as well. So you are sky high up there, but I'll give them this....when you do have a platform in the front it does make for a much more comfortable shoe, you're not so much on your tippy toes, so to speak, (and they are cute but must they ALWAYS be in beige? Really people. Yawn.
So beyond the comfort level here, they are BAD for your feet, AND your body! Believe it or not, they can (and do) not only cause mega feet problems: arch issues, calf muscles that could pin a wrestler (though that is just an aesthetic), but squeezing your feet (even if they are not small in the least, they ARE your size) into pointed configurations and toes hanging over the edge and on and on, they cause your feet to be deformed to some degree and it gets worse over time. Women get hammertoes, bunions (in fact look closely at any celeb pics you might see of their feet in sandals or bare and you see even the YOUNGEST of women already w/hammertoes, bunions, perma blisters, etc. So, again, is BEAUTY/fashion WORTH disfigurement??
I have a few personal experiences w/that myself (not me, but friends, family), 2 examples: my mom AND my mother in law (may she RIP) BOTH had major feet and back problems from wearing heels all of their lives, the problems hit in their 30's and 40's and just got worse. Not to be a broken record, but hammertoes, bunions, the big toes, little toes, any of the toes being "deformed" now, from being pushed into unnatural positions for years and years. They both wore heels for fashion, my Mom because she is a highly successful business woman, has run her own corporation for going on 40 yrs, so wore heels to manage, speak to and lead her people. (haha, she sounds like moses), and my mother in law was only 4'11" inches AND loved fashion too, so she wore heels everyday of her life (that i'm aware of and that she told me, SHE had to have major surgery on her feet. NUMEROUS surgeries and still her feet were never the same, never stopped paining her and being a huge issue. My mom's feet got semi fucked up BUT the heels also messed up her back, she was FORBIDDEN by doctors (back when i was a teenager) to wear heels anymore. The highest they would "allow" her to go was 2-2 1/2 inches and she has followed that and saved herself more pain and grief in that issue.
So yeah, I'm not just bitching and moaning about something I don't want to do or don't like, because neither of those entirely fit my thoughts on the matter, I am just basically pointing out how once again followers (again, we all have been one at some point in our lives I'm sure. Even musicians are followers of all of the music THEY love, and are influenced by it, whether they know it or not, but that's another topic). So yep, people are willingly suffering and causing themselves harm and damage over something that looks good, once again. THAT bothers me, to a degree. It just does.
What is wrong w/comfort? Sure, all of my shoes (except for sport shoes) have some type of heel, just the way it goes I guess. Oh, wait, i have one pair of Skechers that are almost totally flat, made to the curvature of the foot, it feels like you're wearing nothing. Like you only have your feet on. Ahhhh, that is nice.
And yet, as I mentioned, I own TONS of heels, I am sure that I will wear them again, even do wear them now, my sandals alone have like a 3" heel on them, but I'm certainly not wearing stilettos! Maybe in the bedroom. ;)
Oh and I had a boss as well, also petite (honestly I have a million examples for this) who wears stilettos EVERY day of her life, to work, to play, to do anything and is in AGONY almost all day everyday, but to "look good", it's worth it right?
I have no clue if I'm making sense any longer, it's very late and I'm uber tired, was just trying to wrap this up....
a good night/day to all :)
Remember girdles, hoop skirts, brassieres (as opposed to the "comfy" bras we now where, I'm talking the full on hammock, sling deals that women used to have to wear), panty hose, heels again, body stockings, ummm what are those things called that are escaping my mind right now that women LOVE these days? They are like girdle panties, arghh, I sooo know the name of them but it's escaping me now. SPANX!!! that's it. yes. Okay those are not the most comfortable things in the world either. Also remember the way women used to have to deal w/their periods? By wearing those strap on garter belt, diaper-ish deals?
Yes, I'll grant you that men don't have periods so they needn't suffer through that stuff (and don't get me started on period stuff) but think about it, i mean REALLY think about it. WHAT do men ever have to wear (by choice or not) that even remotely compares to what women "have" to wear? Granted, we generally don't have to wear anything, but you know what i'm saying....
Okay, a suit, I'm sure a suit is not the most comfortable situation, especially the tie and the collar but again women have worn those as well and worn turtlenecks and tight ass collars for other fashions, so we've hit that mark too.
Back to the heels situation. Yes, I have worn heels hundreds, thousands of times in my life and still occasionally wear them and have a closet FULL of heels, but I don't wear them anywhere near what I used to, nor do I want to. If I was posing for pictures or on a talk show or something of that nature, where I just put them on for looks, where I didn't have to wear them around before and after (for long anyway), sure I'm in, but walking around in them all day/all night, (which yes, I've done recently as well), oh HELL NO!!!
The times I have in recent years, I either had to (being in a wedding or on a date or something) OR I wore some really "comfortable" heels which is relative. Let's be honest here, there are also a lot of short men out there and towering over them is not so cute in your opinion or theirs in most cases, and I'm only 5'6" but I have dated TONS of men who claimed to be 5'10" and i did NOT have heels on and yet they were exactly my height or I was even an inch or 2 (at least) taller than them. So either I become taller on dates or guys are not being totally honest about their height. :P
**** Here comes my addition to my original post on this from the other night, when I started it. I wasn't done w/this topic but it's been sitting here for more than a day, so I'll post it and continue later, if need be, but I think I made my point. :P
My main point was that it is kind of "expected" by men AND women for anyone who's stylish at all, to wear heels and they have been getting higher and crazier and PRICIER (beyond belief) and you're supposed to be a slave to fashion, discomfort or not but man, i spent soooo many years being a slave to fashion (my own fashion, not what was dictated to me in any form, sure i've liked things here and there that were in style, but that was purely coincidence, we all are influenced by something, no?) and comfort was the LEAST of my concern or desires. Look good, look good , that's all that mattered, but I"m really not big on suffering through wearing 5-6" heels all day, everyday or even once a week. Oh and the LATEST deal, for awhile now is that bloody beige pump, UBER pump that everyone and their mother is wearing, that has like a 6" heel AND the 2-3" platform at the front as well. So you are sky high up there, but I'll give them this....when you do have a platform in the front it does make for a much more comfortable shoe, you're not so much on your tippy toes, so to speak, (and they are cute but must they ALWAYS be in beige? Really people. Yawn.
So beyond the comfort level here, they are BAD for your feet, AND your body! Believe it or not, they can (and do) not only cause mega feet problems: arch issues, calf muscles that could pin a wrestler (though that is just an aesthetic), but squeezing your feet (even if they are not small in the least, they ARE your size) into pointed configurations and toes hanging over the edge and on and on, they cause your feet to be deformed to some degree and it gets worse over time. Women get hammertoes, bunions (in fact look closely at any celeb pics you might see of their feet in sandals or bare and you see even the YOUNGEST of women already w/hammertoes, bunions, perma blisters, etc. So, again, is BEAUTY/fashion WORTH disfigurement??
I have a few personal experiences w/that myself (not me, but friends, family), 2 examples: my mom AND my mother in law (may she RIP) BOTH had major feet and back problems from wearing heels all of their lives, the problems hit in their 30's and 40's and just got worse. Not to be a broken record, but hammertoes, bunions, the big toes, little toes, any of the toes being "deformed" now, from being pushed into unnatural positions for years and years. They both wore heels for fashion, my Mom because she is a highly successful business woman, has run her own corporation for going on 40 yrs, so wore heels to manage, speak to and lead her people. (haha, she sounds like moses), and my mother in law was only 4'11" inches AND loved fashion too, so she wore heels everyday of her life (that i'm aware of and that she told me, SHE had to have major surgery on her feet. NUMEROUS surgeries and still her feet were never the same, never stopped paining her and being a huge issue. My mom's feet got semi fucked up BUT the heels also messed up her back, she was FORBIDDEN by doctors (back when i was a teenager) to wear heels anymore. The highest they would "allow" her to go was 2-2 1/2 inches and she has followed that and saved herself more pain and grief in that issue.
So yeah, I'm not just bitching and moaning about something I don't want to do or don't like, because neither of those entirely fit my thoughts on the matter, I am just basically pointing out how once again followers (again, we all have been one at some point in our lives I'm sure. Even musicians are followers of all of the music THEY love, and are influenced by it, whether they know it or not, but that's another topic). So yep, people are willingly suffering and causing themselves harm and damage over something that looks good, once again. THAT bothers me, to a degree. It just does.
What is wrong w/comfort? Sure, all of my shoes (except for sport shoes) have some type of heel, just the way it goes I guess. Oh, wait, i have one pair of Skechers that are almost totally flat, made to the curvature of the foot, it feels like you're wearing nothing. Like you only have your feet on. Ahhhh, that is nice.
And yet, as I mentioned, I own TONS of heels, I am sure that I will wear them again, even do wear them now, my sandals alone have like a 3" heel on them, but I'm certainly not wearing stilettos! Maybe in the bedroom. ;)
Oh and I had a boss as well, also petite (honestly I have a million examples for this) who wears stilettos EVERY day of her life, to work, to play, to do anything and is in AGONY almost all day everyday, but to "look good", it's worth it right?
I have no clue if I'm making sense any longer, it's very late and I'm uber tired, was just trying to wrap this up....
a good night/day to all :)
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